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writes:I've been questioning my actions and reactions to females, and I'm wondering if I'm a bit too timid. I am a quiet and reserved guy, but I'm more open and comfortable to those I get to know well. It's tough to explain, but I'm usually timid in touching girls. I kind of have this respect towards females as if there are just that delicate to touch. The only exception would be like a formal handshake or something relative. It's not that I want to be touchy, but I feel uncomfortable even in a casual sense. Don't get me wrong, I know the limits between going too far and just being friendly. I'm not talking about any inappropriate physical actions. However, there is a girl I really like and all I want to do is hold her hand, but even that seems far out for me.I also seem to have a respect towards women in general. Some of my friends made it a point to me that it's natural for a guy to check girls out. I mean, I do want to, but it doesn't feel right with me. I tell myself that I just have more self control. I'm just not sure if I'm too respectful in a sense. I'm wondering if any other guys/girls have felt like this, and I'm wondering what girls think about this as well. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): She's not going to slap you or anything, just do it. The opposite sex is more offended by and carefully listens to any wrong words you may say, so don't worry, if you like her, hold her hand. I have the same problem where I don't feel it appropriate to ever make physical contact through simple flirting, but if you really like this girl, take the chance, and she might like you more for it, because girls like a confident guy. Good luck!! Let us know how you made out!
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reader, Cotton223 +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Yeah i know what you mean in high school i was the same way i was very reserved. even the girls who were my friends i was hesitant to have physical contact with. it bothered me for a long time that i had this apprehension towards physical contact with girls. Through out college though i made it a point to really put myself out there no matter what. if i introduced myself to a girl i would always shake her hand, if i saw her at a party anytime after the first meeting i would give her a hug. if i saw a cute girl walking around campus i would make eye contact and give them a smile, some would ignore me, but more often they would smile back, and even say "hi" it was a great feeling. you just have to realize that there's nothing disrespectful/wrong about giving a girl a hug or holding her hand, or looking at them(just dont stare its just creepy)and flashing a little smile. they would probably enjoy it as much as you, and it makes you seem more confident, friendly, and approachable. i think if you take small steps in changing the way you behave around girls you can make some big changes in the way they view you.
Good Luck! i hope some this helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Ok(:
well being me being seventeen i find it very.... new yet.. amazing.
Let me tell you it is hard to find a guy that respects girls as much as you claim to. Usually guys want to be all touchy touchy and staring and stuff and its very.. Unatractive. Us girls do want to be held and loved and cared for but we dont want to be touched and stared at 24/7. Its creepy. Lol(:
I say... If you and this girl are friends and you know her pretty well go for it, make the move. Hold her hand and wait for her reaction. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): well ur definently different than most guys..its cute you respect us but hun most girls i know like more aggresive guys...holding hands is nothin just try steppin out your box.. you can touch us lol we dont bite
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