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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've always been a shy person but lately it's getting ridiculous. Like I'm not shy towards girls, it's just guys, it doesn't matter who it is, I can't talk to any fella coz as soon as we start talking I freeze. I don't know what to say and it's worse with guys I fancy, I just go quiet, I feel so stupid coz i get so shy like yeah I have a few fella friends but I can't even say hi to most people. Any tips or ideas or something I should do?
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reader, Cotton223  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 I have a similar problem except I'm shy around girls. I have been trying to get over it and I have found a few things that help. First you have build confidence in yourself and your image by making sure you look your best whenever you go out. Wear clothes that make you look sexy, workout to build confidence in how your body looks. Because if you look good you feel good. Next since your not shy around girls, make some friends with girls who aren't shy, and hangout with them. You can see how they interact with guys and you can pick up some the things they do. If you start talking to a guy, eye contact and a smile are very important. This is one of the harder things to do if you are shy so you might want to practice with family, your guy friends, people at work, just anywhere you can. Also if you find yourself freezing up when talking to guys, make them do all the talking. Every guy's favorite thing to talk about is themselves so ask a lot of open ended questions about who they are, what they like etc. This will keep them talking and it will show that you have an interest in them with a minimal amount of effort from you. And lastly be PATIENT this is the most important part, you can't expect change over night and if things don't go good don't beat yourself up because you will live to flirt another day. I hope you find some of this useful, remember to start of slow and take things one day at a time. Stay strong and the changes you want will come about.
Best of luck!!
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