I've been waiting for 2 and a half years for my boyfriend to talk to me! Is he worth it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 years and a month. (Since I was 12, and now I'm 17.) After 2 and a half years together, he moved across the US from me. Before he left, everything in our relationship was GREAT! He was the perfect ...
A. 30 September 2011: Just because you say something, doesn't make it so. Actions speak louder than words. I can tell people I am the king of the moon, but it doesn't mean anything. You tell people you are together, that you are boyfriend and girlfriend, but what does ... (read in full...)
I used her laptop to watch porn, and now she's mad at me. I don't understand the fuss!
Q. Hey there, I got in somewhat of a shocking fight today with my girlfriend, let me explain. First of all she found out that Ive watched porn on her laptop in her house when she was in class. That day I woke up and she was already at class, I ...
A. 30 September 2011: It is clear that you didn't mean to disrespect her. It is also clear that she feels disrespected. I can tell that it is important to you for her to know that you didn't intend to disrespect her, and once she has calmed down I am sure she will be ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way when I mention a friend?
Q. So I'm sleeping with a guy that at first was only once week a week and now it has turned into 3-5 days a week. He has told me he wants nothing serious, but lately he has been wanting to meet my family, me to meet his friends, and do things like go ...
A. 30 September 2011: I think your feelings are correct again, it sounds like he wants to be with you and doesn't feel comfortable to say it. Or that he isn't ready to say it. Sometimes things take time to form, but you have the answer you wanted, he said he loves you, ... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for 2 and a half years for my boyfriend to talk to me! Is he worth it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 years and a month. (Since I was 12, and now I'm 17.) After 2 and a half years together, he moved across the US from me. Before he left, everything in our relationship was GREAT! He was the perfect ...
A. 29 September 2011:
"After he left, we've still been together all this time"
Actually you haven't been together, you have been apart and waiting. Your relationship has been on hold. You might have some agreement in place where you have agreed to start your relat... (read in full...)
I used her laptop to watch porn, and now she's mad at me. I don't understand the fuss!
Q. Hey there, I got in somewhat of a shocking fight today with my girlfriend, let me explain. First of all she found out that Ive watched porn on her laptop in her house when she was in class. That day I woke up and she was already at class, I ...
A. 29 September 2011: This is not a question of right and wrong. It is simply a question of perspective. It is understandable that you did what you did and felt ok about it, because of how you view porn, sex, masturbation and relationships. It is also understandable that ... (read in full...)
My friend tried to make my boyfriend end it with me! What do I do?
Q. So this girl that I have been getting pretty close as friends, I met her a couple months back. Well I also just recently came out of a relationship and she has kinda been right there with me. I have reunited with someone whom I never really gave ...
A. 29 September 2011: She may be two different things to you. She may be a good friend in some respects, and she may be someone who acts competatively with her friends in relation to men. She may have acted competatively with your boyfriend and said things to him to try ... (read in full...)
Is masturbating a sin?
Q. I am a Christian (Catholic) girl and I have recently started masturbating myself, and I read lots of articles that says that masturbation is a sin. Is it true? Did God really prohibits it? P.S I am not using any toys or such....
A. 29 September 2011: Asking whether the Catholic Church considers masturbation a sin and whether God considers masturbation a sin are two different things.
The Catholic Church, like all religions, is something invented by man in trying to interperet the will of God a... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way when I mention a friend?
Q. So I'm sleeping with a guy that at first was only once week a week and now it has turned into 3-5 days a week. He has told me he wants nothing serious, but lately he has been wanting to meet my family, me to meet his friends, and do things like go ...
A. 29 September 2011: You answered your own question. You need to ask him if his feelings have changed, which it sounds like they have. It also shows that your intuition is correct, and that you can trust it in the future to answer questions which come up for you. I am ... (read in full...)
I have a secret ultimatum.
Q. I've given myself a timeline that if he doesn't propose to me by then, I'm going to focus my life on something new. Ive been with him for a few years, and last year October he mentioned he was going to propose in Feburary... its now nearly October ...
A. 29 September 2011: It is true that people should stick to their word, and that if he said he would propose by then, he should have, or should have spoken to you about it. However, it can help to understand that these issues are difficult to talk about sometimes. You ... (read in full...)
Do I want too much in this relationship?
Q. I'm currently dating a lovely guy. I'm not sure if I can really use the word "dating" because even though he wants us to be exclusive and tells me he loves me, he refers to me as a friend to everyone he introduces me to. On Facebook, he was fine ...
A. 28 September 2011: Does he know you think of him as your boyfriend, and do you introduce him as your boyfriend?
Does he know that you want to be thought of as his girlfriend?
Does he know how important this issue is to you, and that it is hurting you that he intro... (read in full...)
My friend's date decided she like me instead
Q. My friend has met a girl on a dating website, they went on two dates and invited me along to the third...I was ment to have a blind date with her mate. As soon as I seen them both I knew I didnt like the blind date so I just enjoyed he night and the ...
A. 28 September 2011: Great, glad it worked out well for you. Having those hard kinds of conversations with people is difficult for all of us, but the more of them you can have and just be true to yourself, the better, so this one is good experience for you to have had, ... (read in full...)
I wish my b/f could have sex and kiss like my ex!
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2 years now. He's not a great kisser and the sex is pretty bad - he doesn't last. I have talked to him about the sex and kissing, even guided him through how I like it. But he slips back into the his bad kissing the ...
A. 27 September 2011: You have spoken to your bf in a teaching sense, which you don't like, you find it frustrating, and the learning doesn't last. You need to go to the next level of communication, but how you do it is important.
If you talk to him like you know wha... (read in full...)
My friend's date decided she like me instead
Q. My friend has met a girl on a dating website, they went on two dates and invited me along to the third...I was ment to have a blind date with her mate. As soon as I seen them both I knew I didnt like the blind date so I just enjoyed he night and the ...
A. 27 September 2011: If your friend liked her, he is likely to be upset. However, she isn't his ex girlfriend, they went on 3 dates and met on an internet dating website, and she has told him she isnt interested in him. It would be ok for you to date her, but only if ... (read in full...)
Has being single so long left me bitter in some way, or maybe desperate seeming?
Q. I've been single for three years. The first year was nice, because I was finding my own life after getting out of a long, young, horribly bad relationship (only one ever). Now I've wanted to be with somebody and have a healthy relationship for year...
A. 27 September 2011: My instincts tell me you are correct in a hunch you have - that you might be seeking out guys you aren't really that into. This would relate to the fact that you don't see them more than once or twice before losing interest. This is most likely a ... (read in full...)
I'm just really hurt and I didn't see it coming. Do I just let her go? I really do like her.
Q. First of all thank you for reading this! So i've been in love with my best friend now for close to two years. We met at a friend's house and we liked each other and went on a few dates. She had just broken up with her boyfriend of two years so she...
A. 27 September 2011: You can learn a lot about love from your relationship with this girl. The first thing to learn is love doesn't mean getting what you want, the way you want it, and when you want it. "Love" that is fuelled by your need for her, to be with her, desire ... (read in full...)
Should I call this girl who I think my husband had an affair with? He says he didn't cheat.
Q. Hello everyone! Well I need advice. I believe my husband has had an affair, over an 8 month period. I have asked him 3 different times, and he has denied any wrong doing. He became irate and said that men and women can be friends without having sex....
A. 25 September 2011: I tend to always trust my intuition. However, a person's gut can be wrong or right in this kind of thing depending on how trusting or not trusting they are. Your sense of it is not objective because your sense of trust has been affected by the ... (read in full...)
I sexted another girl. my girlfriend dumped me but says she will always love me. I don't understand these mixed signals
Q. I dont understand my break up at all. My girlfriend broke up with me because I screwed up. I was drunk and went on my computer and facebook sexted a girl I wasnt supposed to talk to at all. I wasnt aloud to talk to this girl so I didnt. I wasnt ...
A. 25 September 2011: If you don't understand what is happening in your break up, it is because you aren't communicating with her properly. Which is understandable, because you are broken up. But you feel like you need to know what is going on. So you need to ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my perfect match that I wear coloured lenses?
Q. I don't know how to go about this. I met this guy who is amazing in so many ways, it is shocking how good looking he is!! But more so that he is on the same wavelength as me and i've never met anybody who has been more of a perfect match for what ...
A. 25 September 2011: If you guys are on the same wavelength, your contacts will be insignificant, you guys sound like you have a connection that goes beyond that.
Most importantly though, if you do have a deeper connection with him and are looking for a genuine ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had a drunken fling and now the guy won't leave us alone
Q. Long story short my gf has broken up with me and had drunken sex with a guy she barely knew She says sex with him was amazing and he was way "bigger" than me I hate that fact but she says I shouldn't worry that he meant nothing and it only happened...
A. 25 September 2011: First, you need to talk to her about this. You need to let her know that you are both on the same side, and that it is bothering you and you know it is bothering her too. You don't want her to think you aren't on the same side as her.
Once ... (read in full...)
Should I try to trust him?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together just over a year now. Our relationship has been awesome, we rarely fight and we enjoy so much of the same things and just have a lot of fun together. I recently gave birth 2 weeks ago to our son, but 4 days before ...
A. 25 September 2011: This is a breach of your trust first and foremost. His behaviour was totally inappropriate, and you both have to bare the consequences of this breach of trust.
The good news is that it isn't severe. It is bad, but not as bad as him actually... (read in full...)
I do all the loving and giving but don't get much back in return
Q. im finding it very hard moving on from a relationship weve spilt up 6 wks ago and were together a year. ive got a daughter and he had a son. so the rountine was basically this,pretty much moved in with me as he had a job in my town as he lived ...
A. 25 September 2011: The title of your post reads: "I do all the loving and giving but don't get much back in return"
That is the answer you are looking for. If you do lots of giving, often the other person in the relationship feel like they don't need to. So they don'... (read in full...)
I'm not sexually attracted to my girlfriend!
Q. I've met a fantastic woman, she is funny, intelligent, thoughtful, sweet with a heart of gold... doesn't sound like much of a problem does it? The problem lies in attraction, I met her from a dating site, we hit it off immediately as we are both of ...
A. 25 September 2011: The one thing you can't get elsewhere is sexual attraction and compatibility. You can get everythhing else from friends and other relationships, fun, love, intellectual stimulation, spiritual connection, creative collaboration, activity partner, ... (read in full...)
I want to send my ex a 'hello' message but I don't want him to get the wrong idea
Q. Hey, my ex and I broke up like 6 months ago. I told him that he had to let me go and I had to let go of him too, that we needed not to contact each other (he started seeing another girl, but still kinda would text me and reach out to me). I know ...
A. 25 September 2011: You miss him, and want to send him a hello but don't want to give him the wrong impression that you are trying to get him back? How about "Hey, I miss you and have really felt like saying hello. I don't want to give you the wrong impression, I am ... (read in full...)
How can I help my wife to see that her partying with her gay and straight male friends is ruining our marriage?
Q. Hi, i'm 28, my wife 27, been married for 18 months now. Our marriage has been good up until now; she's a lovely wife and a kind, caring person. However, she's been going out partying far too much with her gay friends, and refuses to invite M...
A. 23 September 2011: There are two things you need to do. They sound contradictory, but they aren't exactly, and they are both important.
First, you need to get a life. She has a life, she is out partying, having fun, what are you doing, the housework? Get out and ... (read in full...)
G/f's ex has invited her for a movie, and I don't trust this guy at all
Q. My girlfriend's old friend / ex boyfriend invited her to the movies with him, alone. Her and I have been dating for 18 months and I've never really felt like this before. I feel, not that she would cheat on me or anything, but the ex will do ...
A. 23 September 2011: It is ok for you to trust her and also not be comfortable with the situation, and not trust him. You can tell her all of those things. Tell her that you don't like her choosing to put herself in situations where she can be taken advantage of, but ... (read in full...)
Who do I pick? Ducky, Arby or Dorky??
Q. Help me pleased I don't know what to do! Okay so I have a few diferent guys asking me out and I got no Idea who to pick. 1 guy is my ex BF (call him Ducky) Him and I were dating for like a week then I had to break up with him cuz of drama in my l...
A. 23 September 2011: Let me start by addressing the possibility of dating all 3 and getting to know them all. You responded by saying that you would consider this to be cheating. At your age, that makes sense. To an adult dating several people at once to decide which ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this irritating man child whom I had been dating?
Q. I'm really mad. I was seeing this 40 year old man child for 5 months. He tells me he really likes me, sees us together but needed time to get himself together after a break up. He wasn't married or engaged to this woman. This guy would only call ...
A. 23 September 2011: Lol is an answer. It means I am laughing at you because I am quite obviously not interested in you, so it is funny that you want to try and get together for a drink after I haven't contacted you for 3 weeks. If I had wanted to get together with you ... (read in full...)
This other guy won't take no for an answer from my g/f
Q. I need your help. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a while and today she told me that when she was hanging out with her friends. That one of her guy friends hugged her from behind. She brushed the guy off numerous times and told him to ...
A. 23 September 2011: You shouldn't break up with her. She hasn't done anything wrong by you, because it isn't her doing something that she shouldn't, she is being taken advantage of by another guy. She is also young and inexperienced, so she doesn't know how to deal ... (read in full...)
How to I get my friend's girlfriend to stop coming on to me?
Q. Hey guys, I'm really inexperienced in the whole male female dynamic kind of thing. I don't really know what's a sign of attraction from a girl. So I might as well tell you why I'm asking this. My friend's girlfriend, is like a really good ...
A. 22 September 2011: You say your friend's girlfriend is a really good friend of yours. It is ok for friends to hug and to be physically close, to put their legs on one another during a movie. However this is also how a girl would flirt with you if she was interested in ... (read in full...)
Friends wife exposing herself in window!
Q. How should i react to this....my friend lives across the strret from me with his wife. Lately she has begun to (vividly blinds wide open) expose herself to me at night in the window. The shower is directly in front of the window. She get's out she ...
A. 20 September 2011: What is it that you want to achieve? You have a girlfriend and she is married to a friend of yours, so I am not clear what you are trying to achieve by thinking of sending her your number? Do you want to have an affair with her? Your actions should ... (read in full...)
My life seems like sunshine and roses on the outside, but there's alot going on!
Q. Hi, I don't knwo where to start really but i need some help. I feel like my life is turning into one of those lives where its all sunshine and daises on the front but inside there stuffgoing on i don't know how to deal with. On the outside im a 17yr ...
A. 19 September 2011: You say a few things in your post which fill me with a lot of help for you and your situation.
Firstly you start by acknowledging that you need help, and that is true, someone in your situation does need some support, some good people to talk the... (read in full...)
Can a man still find sex enjoyable if he doesn't cum?
Q. Hello People, So I know the response from most - wow what a lucky lady! So I have a great relationship with my new fella, going well. I wanted to ask tour opinions on a sex matter. He lasts for ages, and I mean ages (totally rocks my worl...
A. 19 September 2011: Glad to hear you have resolved it in your mind, and that you are so happy with things. If things come up in your mind, it is good to seek advice as you have done, but also you can talk to you partner about your thoughts. Learning about how you guys ... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend is attracted to another girl. Is this really a big deal?
Q. Note: a friend of mine (16) asked me to post this So my friends boyfriend and her were going strong for about 6 months until she found out he was attracted to a friend of hers, yet had no feelings whatsoever. My friend is devastated and a...
A. 19 September 2011: Glad that you found it useful to seek advice and insight, relationships are a learning process, so you are bound to encounter difficulties as you go through them. Talking through your difficulties with your partner is a good place to start. ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone but not be suited?
Q. Can you love and like someone but not be suited? I know this is long-winded but it's really bugging me and I can't get my head around this. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 mths now. We both love and like each other very much. We ha...
A. 16 September 2011: Relationships are not defined by the problems you have. All relationships have problems. They are defined by how you deal with them, by the ways you try to overcome them. At the moment you are struggling with communcation, but your hearts are in the ... (read in full...)
Can a man still find sex enjoyable if he doesn't cum?
Q. Hello People, So I know the response from most - wow what a lucky lady! So I have a great relationship with my new fella, going well. I wanted to ask tour opinions on a sex matter. He lasts for ages, and I mean ages (totally rocks my worl...
A. 16 September 2011: Yes, a guy can not come and still find sex enjoyable. Reaching orgasm does give a sense of completion, release and in a sense relief, if it hasn't been reached there can be a sense of incompletion, frustration, and other feelings, but it is still be ... (read in full...)
Friends wife exposing herself in window!
Q. How should i react to this....my friend lives across the strret from me with his wife. Lately she has begun to (vividly blinds wide open) expose herself to me at night in the window. The shower is directly in front of the window. She get's out she ...
A. 16 September 2011: There is the speculation around her actions, and there are your actions and choices.
She is doing this because she:
- likes the idea of showing off her body, or the fantasy of it even if she isn't sure someone is watching, and is a bit of an ex... (read in full...)
I want dirty sex! Can I get it without leaving my husband?
Q. Why cant he get dirtier in bed? I know I am not as fit as a porn star, but I love sex and the hotter and dirtier the better! I have always known what I wanted, but when we first got together I was too young and shy to articulate it. Ten years later, ...
A. 16 September 2011: You have communicated with him really well, and you are committed to him in spite of your dissatisfaction, which is great for you and your relationship, you guys sound like you have a solid enough foundation to be able to get through this to the ... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend is attracted to another girl. Is this really a big deal?
Q. Note: a friend of mine (16) asked me to post this So my friends boyfriend and her were going strong for about 6 months until she found out he was attracted to a friend of hers, yet had no feelings whatsoever. My friend is devastated and a...
A. 15 September 2011: When two people go out with one another, the rest of the world doesn't suddnely become populated with unattractive people. There are still attractive people out there, and there is nothing wrong with a guy finding other people attractive or good ... (read in full...)
I want dirty sex! Can I get it without leaving my husband?
Q. Why cant he get dirtier in bed? I know I am not as fit as a porn star, but I love sex and the hotter and dirtier the better! I have always known what I wanted, but when we first got together I was too young and shy to articulate it. Ten years later, ...
A. 14 September 2011: You have written two posts, and they both need the same thing, communication.
You guys are not emotionally on the same page, and until you are, your sex isn't going to be on the same page.
You have told him all of the things you want him to ... (read in full...)
Wife got drunk and molested in her sleep at a party. How to put back together the pieces?
Q. I trust my wife, and I truly believe her when she told me it was a mistake. My wife went to a party and drank. She felt too drunk to drive and didn't want to wake me and our child up to come get her. She texted me that she was staying the nigh...
A. 14 September 2011: Your wife felt powerless at first due to the alcohol, confusion from sleep, and power and emotions that sexual energy can have over people, and the longer it went on she just said "fuck it, I am just going to go with it..." and let it happen. When ... (read in full...)
We don't know how to tell our partners about us!
Q. im 24 and my fiancee is 23 we've been in a relationship for two years now and we're engaged too, but recently i met this other women while i was away on a lads weekend and we hit off straight away. we both had no intentions of finding someone new ...
A. 14 September 2011: You simply have to make a choice, of who to have a relationship with, and let the other person know your decision. It isn't an easy decision, but it is a simple one.
In my opinion, it is best to be clear about who you want to be with in the pres... (read in full...)
Am I right to be angry at my parents' relationship with my ex?
Q. I split with my ex of 9 years 16 months ago. It was, as far as it can be, amicable and fortunately there were no other people involved, nor did we have kids. My ex bought me out of our house and I have my own flat and she has, just last week, sold ...
A. 13 September 2011: You had a 9 year relationship, so presumably your parents formed their own relationship with your partner over a similar amount of time, and would have started to view her as part of the family. When your relationship breaks down, theirs might not ... (read in full...)
I am seriously broke right now because of him
Q. Dear CUPID!! I'm 23 my boyfriends 35. He recently got fired from his job and has been asking me for money. I recently lent him 2 hundred bucks to attend a football game. I am seriously broke right now because of him. I know he lost his job and I do ...
A. 13 September 2011: The problem is not that he asked you. The problem is that you agreed to lend him the money when you weren't in a position to be without that money.
If you had $10000 lying around and he asked you to borrow $200 so he could go to the football... (read in full...)
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