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Is there any way I can feel love for my fiance again

Answered by anonymous on 28 April 2024.

Q. I’m not so sure I love my fiance anymore and deep down I think he knows it too but won’t accept it because he’s a creature of habit. The spark in our relationship has faded over the years for various reasons, for example, he works so much overtime ...

A. 28 April 2024: As an RMN with a counselling degree, this is a very complex situation and family dynamics. Firstly, I would look at how your mum and his move can move out - what's the time line here? You can't solve anything if your kind is being saturate... (read in full...)

Am I just jealous of his ex?

Answered by anonymous on 28 April 2024.

Q. A long time FWB had open heart surgery recently. I told him I would help with whatever I could when he gets home as he lives alone. His ex-wife stepped in and started filling up his refrigerator, took care of his cat, and has been there every night ...

A. 28 April 2024: Friends with benefits does not include helping them when ill or visiting them whenever it suits you. It's just sex no strings. You are trying to use this as a chance to get nearer to him and spend more time with him and turn it into more, which is ... (read in full...)

Am I just jealous of his ex?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2024.

A. 27 April 2024: Unfortunately you are just someone he has sex with, without any commitment or your being a real part of his life. Would you not prefer to find a proper relationship with someone who loves and respects you? Please don't let anyone treat you like... (read in full...)

My ex ended things by attacking me verbally

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2024.

Q. My partner of 4 years just ended things with me, I'm absolutely heartbroken. I thought wee were okay. Yeah wee had problems but always worked through them, he was good with my daughter too. It's not just that he ended it he ended it in the most ...

A. 27 April 2024: I'm not surprised you're upset at this bolt out of the blue after four years together. I think it's very cowardly and disrespectful of him to end the relationship through a facebook message. I agree with Honeypie that it sounds like someone ... (read in full...)

Is there any way I can feel love for my fiance again

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2024.

A. 27 April 2024: It seems that whether you get angry or just try to talk to him he doesn't take anything you say seriously. I don't think you're being irrational at all. He seems to be living like a single man and leaving all the responsibility for the child to ... (read in full...)

Am I just jealous of his ex?

Answered by Honeypie + on 27 April 2024.

A. 27 April 2024: You are an FWB, she is an ex-WIFE - big difference. I get why you feel less important, because you are less important to him. He is #1, the ex wife (because she knows what he likes and how to take care of him, she is familiar) is#2 and you aren... (read in full...)

My ex ended things by attacking me verbally

Answered by Honeypie + on 27 April 2024.

A. 27 April 2024: Now I might be wrong here, but my guess is that he attacked you verbally to get you off balance, so you won't realize that He did something messed up, (like, cheating). Sometimes the best defense is an offence. That is my guess, HE either... (read in full...)

No sex drive with ex partner

Answered by Honeypie + on 27 April 2024.

Q. i broke up with my partner of 7 years in february, i did not feel sexually attracted to him anymore we argued all the time i did not even want to kiss him but stayed with him purely as we have two kids. I met someone else just for sex and found my...

A. 27 April 2024: You are not attracted to your ex. You are not sexually compatible. Learn to co-parent the best way you can for your kids. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend showing signs of insecurity or controlling? Title (e.g. My husband is

Answered by Honeypie + on 27 April 2024.

Q. I have known him for about 2 years, between this time we were friends and we grew closer together to the point where we admitted we had feelings for each other. We started dating recently in February this year, however he has shown some signs of ...

A. 27 April 2024: I have so many questions.. You write:" I had said to him to not slap my butt in public or anything inappropriate to make people stare." HAS he ever slapped your but in public or done anything inappropriate to make set that boundary with hi... (read in full...)

Is there anything wrong with me skipping my high school reunions?

Answered by anonymous on 27 April 2024.

Q. My 20 year high school reunion is coming up in a few months. I never made any of my reunions (5 year reunion, 10 year reunion, or my 15 year reunion). I was bullied by a few students and most of the students just acted like I didn't exist. T...

A. 27 April 2024: The only reason for people to try to get you to those reunions is for their gain, not yours. They are being nosy, or curious, however you wish to put it. They want closure on how you turned out. They aren't thinking of you, they're thinking of ... (read in full...)

My aunt embarrassed me in front of everyone at the wedding & I dread facing everyone now!!

Answered by malvern + on 24 April 2024.

Q. Basically what happened we all attended a family members wedding last week. After the wedding breakfast and before the evening doo my aunt decided she wanted to go back to my house to freshen up - she left a change of clothes at my house as I...

A. 24 April 2024: Your aunt is a bit of a bitch! She has shown you her true colours so at least you now know what kind of a person she really is. The way she behaved says more about her than it does about you and I am sure all your friends were horrified and ... (read in full...)

Torn between wife and lover

Answered by malvern + on 24 April 2024.

Q. Please don’t shoot me down for asking this question as I know I’ve done wrong and am struggling enough as it is. I’m a 52 year old male, married for 30 years. I’ve not been happy for probably 10 years. As the children grew up we both realised we...

A. 24 April 2024: I would say move on with your life. You have been unhappy for years. I think your wife is clinging onto financial security and safety since you say you have no life together. Unfortunately you are going to have to sacrifice your current financial ... (read in full...)

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