| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: hi i need some advice! im 17 and im a virgin but this lad im seeing doest know i am! i have done sexual things beofre but i have never gone the whole way lol will he know im a virgin when i have sex for the first time???? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): yes coz my guy knew that i was a virgin the first time we did it, it was so painful and i told him to stop though i never bled and he start comforting me wiped my tears and huged. but i still feel the pain when do it and he does not penetraight his penis is only half way inserted and he always tells me to relax.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): no he will not know if you a virgin!!! Everyone is different you can bleed none or every time you have sex not just the first! the whole thing about the hymen breaking isnt true, sure it will break during sex but thats if its still there your more likey to break it as a child from falling on your crotch like when riding a bike or climbing a fence or inserting a tampon!! and if your seriously afraid of bleeding your first time maybe practice with a dildo, be your own first time lol.I never told my first that he was my first and he didnt know a thing and i didnt regret it one bit, i was sorta glad i got that out of the way and not having to go threw the convo before hand about me actually being virgin made it so much better lol.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): yes he will know that you are a virgin because you have not formed with a man yet it will be hard for him to enter you the first time and he will know it my best advise is to go on and tell him that you are...
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): iam not a virgin and iam afraid of gettigng married and my husband knows am not a virgin...and i cant go thru operations to hide that since i dont want my parents to know either... tell me do u think guys feel if a girl is a virgin or not....what shall i do not to let him figure it out
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): When my wife was seventeen , she had boyfriends expecting sex but she resisted. When I met her she was therefore clean and untouched for me , not for another man to have already tasted what is mine. When you meet your future husband , dont you also want to give him the wonderful gift of your virginity , or does he have to settle for soiled goods? It is unlikely that you will stay with this guy forever at your age.
Is there a lifelong commitment between you?
If my wife wasnt a virgin , it would have been "Goodnight Vienna"
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): Please, better remain in ur state until u find a man that will love u for life. Then, let him know ur status the first time u do it and he will remain ever grateful to u for keeping ur self for him.
...............................
A
female
reader, bonym  +, writes (17 September 2006):
 People who are not virgins can bleed after sex and also virgins having sex for the first time have not always bled so bleeding is not the obvious sign of virginity. The only way he can TRULY know is if you tell him and unless he is psychic he cant really know for sure. Stop worrying. xXx
...............................
A
female
reader, uonlyliveonce +, writes (16 September 2006):
 i never told my boyfriend i was a virgin when i first slept with hm, luckily i didnt bleed n knew what i was doing so he didnt have a clue
but if you bleed he's gunna know
just tell him he'll respect you for it anyway
x x x
...............................
A
female
reader, Green_Eyes +, writes (16 September 2006):
 You definitely need to tell him that it's your first time. Far from thinking this is bad, he'll most likely be flattered and, if he's a decent guy, will be perfectly willing to take things at your pace.
Physically, you may bleed too, if your hymen is not already broken. I'd suggest that you plan it for a time when you can both be completely alone and relaxed - no distractions. That way, you're less likely to be tense and should find that you can just go with the flow. Hope evrything goes well for you. Xx
...............................
A
female
reader, confussed jane +, writes (16 September 2006):
first you shouldnt be ashamed i wish i had waited till bit older like your age second he mite not find out depends if you bleed but some guys wouldnt mind just wish had told him befor.he mite notice your like a but confussed not exseperanced and mite ask you but he mit not its a chance him will depends.
...............................
A
female
reader, DrPsych +, writes (16 September 2006):
 It is ok to be a virgin at 17 and nothing to be ashamed about. Sometimes women bleed upon first sex because of breaking the hymen, but I think what you need to ask yourself is why you wouldn't want this guy to know about your virgin status. Firstly, if you feel he will ridicule you over it or be put off...would you really want to sleep with him anyway? Good relationships are founded on excellent communication. Secondly, if he knows then he may not have great expectations and be a bit more gentle in the bedroom. I think most men would be flattered by you sleeping with him as a virgin - well he should be flattered anyway.
...............................
A
female
reader, jackie69 +, writes (16 September 2006):
 I never told my boyfriend i was a virgin when i lost it and he never knew any the wiser, but u must be prepared for quite a lot of blood and mess from yourself and be strong enough to come up with an explanation for it!
i know not every woman bleeds, but i would be very prepared for it!
I am still with my boyfriend and i love him very much, he still has no idea i was a virgin when i slept with him and i shall not tell him until i am comfortable with that myself!
All the best xx
...............................
A
female
reader, Helen1986 +, writes (16 September 2006):
 Why are you ashamed of being a virgin? Honestly it is a good thing, you are only 17! When I was at school we were all under pressure to lose our virginity, because if you were a virgin you were not cool. So I lost my virginity to a boy I hardly knew in a park bush and I regret it big time.
I know that you didn't want a lecture and I am trying not to give you one. I think that you have done really well to stay a virgin. I just want to warn you. Please do not sleep with this guy until you are ready to do so, don't feel pressured into it because all your friends are doing it. Please save it until you fall in love just like I wish I would have. But the choice is yours hunny.
Do not be ashamed though, he should respect you for being a virgin. My advice to you is tell him, so that he will be gentle and guide you. Remember to use contraception hunny. Good luck and remember think before you do it, Take care
...............................
A
female
reader, sjd +, writes (16 September 2006):
 Chances are, unless you tell him and especially if you have done some sexual things in the past, he will not know you are a virgin. I have heard different things from my friends that are female saying they had a little bit of blood the first time they had sex, but most of them did not. I never did the first time I had sex.
However, in my opinion, you should tell him you are a virgin. It may seem awkward, but I think it would be beneficial for many reasons. Some guys who have sex with a girl and don't know she was a virgin, then if they find out afterwards feel different. Also, if the guy knows you are a virgin he may be more understanding to the fact that you have never had sex before and may not know exactly what to do. Also, you may be very uncomfortable the first time you have sex and is is definately better to be on the same page with your lover, so there is no confusion or mixed signals (such as he might think you are not that into it) once you start having sex. I hope this helps...good luck!
...............................
A
male
reader, gat +, writes (16 September 2006):
 depends how you act.
Otherwise..physically...no most likely he wont know.
But possible.
...............................
|
