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writes:Holy F*ck im going nuts. long story i was planning on going to college with my girlfreind (who im facking nuts about. she means the world to me and id do anything for her)this september but my father got a buyout from general motors which he used to pay off his mortgages on the house. so because of that i got no goverment funding for school and my father cant cosign for a student line of credit from the bank cause of his credit rating i also just spent the 4000 i had saved up on a peice of shit on wheels. so i have no money. and i cant sell uit till i spend about 1500so im so lonley all my freinds are gone to college now too. i have nothing to do. i work dont hang out with anyone. come home workout and eat. my life sucks balls. i miss my baby soo much and i dont know what to do. we still stay in contact and i am going to try to go see her when ever i can but she is meeting new ppl. she hardly talks to me anymore shes always too busy. and im not going to lie . she gets really horney when she drinks and thats all shes been doing for the last week. and she only has guys on her floor escpet for a girl from india who ddoesnt leave her room. i was planning on spending the first week with her but they dont allow quests the first week. i would like to go up every other weekend to see her shes only an hour away but i have 2 jobs. i work at zellers and penzoil. how should i tell them that i need everyother weekend off? would there by an intelligent way to do that. oh and i dont even have a car right now to go up so unless i can finance a cheap used car or get a deal on something my life will be even that much worse.anyways im fuckin depressed like mad and dont know what to do. im stuck in my dads basement making 10.25 an hour with no excitement in my life. i cant sleep at night i dont but i always wanna cry. i just need some advice. i love her and she loves me but i dont want her to fall for some guy she is seeing everyday. any help would be great. also is there anyway i could easily tell her how i feel about all the guys up there. oh and if anyone wants to give me a car that runs and wont break down it would be great. anyways thx for listening to my pathetic life. im going to sleep see whats on tv at 2 in the morning seeing as how i cant sleep knowing shes drunk with about 10 guys and maybe another girl.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (31 August 2010):
 OMG...for God's sake stop whining and get a hold on yourself!!!Read your own column, and see how you sound!! You're not under he Taliban's regime...you're a young man living in a wonderful country, and you have a job(no matter how much it sucks, you HAVE an income of your own). If you sound so pathetic, then can you blame your girlfriend for losing interest in you?? Honestly, would YOU like to be with someone who keeps whining all the time???If you dont want her to fall for another guy, then be the best guy for her that you can be. And there are no guarantees in life...even if she does move on...can you do anything about it?? Dont be a clingy boyfriend...there is nothing that is a bigger turn-off.Give her her own space and please get a life of your own. Stop wondering about her...even if she isint doing any of the things you mentioned, you've probably already made a movie in your head about all that COULD go astray.
So you dont have a car.BIG DEAL.Its not the end of the world.And thank your stars you're "stuck" in your dad's basement and not living under a bridge..you never know how bad life can get. Count your blessings. Make new friends,talk to people,and most importantly, don't let others determine your happiness.Try being happy yourself, you will feel more positive, and that will reflect in your attitude.
All the best...SMILE...Its never as bad as it seems!!
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (31 August 2010):
The girl: she's fairly likely to at least mess around with another guy. If that's something she really wants to do, you're not going to prevent it by telling her you're obsessing over it. If she thinks you can't handle it, she'll just cheat on you and lie to your face, or simply break up with you, rather than being straight with you.
You: You don't have ANY friends? Come on. Coworkers? Friends home from college for the weekend? Get out of the fucking house. Work out more, and harder. Ever think about trying to meet other girls?
Money: Save hard. Track every penny. Spend wisely.
Life: It sucks. Often. But someday it gets better. Probably.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (31 August 2010):
 Well, she sounds like a partier and maybe you should have ended before she went away to school. At least you have a job, 2 at that. The economy still blows and there still aren't that many jobs. So you spent 4000 on a piece of crap that doesn't even work? And know you can sell it till you spend 1500, how much are you thinking you're going to get out of this when it's all said and done? What were you thinking my dear? That could have paid for part of a semester and the rest you could have made payments using the $ from your jobs. I feel bad for you I really do, but instead of wallowing in self misery which does you no good let's get a game plan.
1. I wouldn't take off every other weekend, in fact ask for more hours so your working your ass off to save for a car.
2. FInd a cheap used car that will get you from point A to point B.
3. After, you buy your new beater then proceed to work your ass off saving for next year's tuition.
4. Then you enter in the summer semester, if you don't believe in that enter in the fall.
5. Go down to part time on one job and either quit the other leaving on good terms for school so that they'll hire you back in the summer.
Don't like any of those ideas, join the military then school will be free after you get out. You might want to look into the Reserves as well I think they will give you the g.i. bill for school to and you won't ever have to deploy.
If the girlfriend falls for another guy then oh well, worry about you first!
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