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writes:Why do teenage guys always go for the popular girls??? Does no one realize how bad it makes every other girls feel cause they always come in second place to the girls who make us feel unattractive. Why does this happen??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): All that changes when you leave school, trust me. The so called "popular" girls usually end up married at a young age with a couple of kids and also get fat ;) Seriously though, once you leave school and a few years down the road you look back at these popular girls you'll see that they weren't even that great. It's actually rather a good feeling to know, in my experience anyway, that these so called popular ones have ganied 30lbs and are stuck with 5 kids while you're out there having fun.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 October 2010):
 "Popular" is an interesting term. Maybe by "popular", you mean the girls who are confident, outgoing and have a lot of friends. This is working for them because they feel good about themselves, aren't shy about talking to people and have a lot of networking. Guys at your age are really shy, and are nervous about approaching girls... so it's easier for them to have a girl approach them and start flirting.
I don't know if I'd say I was "popular" in high school like in the movies, but I had a lot of friends and was totally comfortable talking and flirting with guys, hence I never had trouble dating!
So smile, and start a conversation with a guy that you like. And, don't always aim for the hottest guy who everyone drools over. In my experience, these guys are the biggest jerks of all!! Good luck, sweet!
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reader, Kohnal +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Not all us guys like the "popular" girls in fact I'm quite the opposite. I tend to like the girls who are real and don't have to smother on make up to see someone she cares about. My advice is to not look so much at popularity and look more at guys who look at the girls who are beautiful with out makeup or expensive clothes
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 The popular guys usually go for the popular girls as well do the regular guys because there is more focus on what the popular girls are doing. They tend to put themselves out there more, usually more sexually which is where the boys head is focused on. Its been that way for along time and doesn't seem to show any signs of changing. High school is about popularity for so many people.
Now here's the bright side, once you are out of high school none of the popularity garbage matters in the real world. When I went to university I realized that I could talk to whoever no matter who they were and the seperation between the groups was gone. Everyone is able to be seen for who the attractive person that they are is.
Also if you have a specific boy in mind don't be afraid to talk to him and see how he reacts with you. But what I have noticed is that the popular boys are not the desireable ones later on in life.
Remember that you are attractive and that you do have the freedom to be who you want to be.
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reader, BigRuss  +, writes (13 October 2010):
I think firstly, they do not do it on purpose.
Sexual attraction is a very complex thing. I think you will find that the guys that are attracked to you, are not the guys you are after.
So my question to you would be, what do you see in these particular teenage guys?
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reader, Ricemonster +, writes (13 October 2010):
 Actually, how do you define "popular"? Also, who are these teenage guys? You're 'definitely' not talking about that kid who hides himself behind a stack of books at the 2nd floor of the library, reading up on Lochness Monsters and Aliens from Mars, who enjoy building flying saucers and dress up as Gundams right?
Back in high school, I liked this girl who wasn't so 'popular', but wow, she was pretty. At least to me she was.
Alas, "why does this happen?" doesn't. It totally depends on who you're talking about. Also, think about all the other teenage guys that don't go for the 'popular' girls. Yes, there are indeed the others.
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