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*laire211
writes:You know the feeling you get when you just meet someone and your stomach drops because of that amazing chemical reaction? I haven't had it in almost a year.Seriously, i'm going insane, no matter what situation, who i'm with or even if it was just a cheeky new years kiss I don't get that feeling any more... I don't understand why?! The last person that made me feel like that broke my heart, but that doesn't really affect me as much any more and I feel I am ready to move on but it just isn't happening for me. Why? Has anybody has the same problem and overcome it? How? Please someone help i'm loosing my marbles over it!
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reader, kayxlovesxjamiex +, writes (4 January 2010):
 i disagree, i think that chemestry in a relationship is important, even though you shouldnt go out with anyone based on these feelings, they truly help, theres nothing better than having butterflies when hes around, or jumping with energy when the phone rings and its him! when the time is right hun, these feelings will come!
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reader, claire211 +, writes (3 January 2010):
claire211 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to add I am not saying that's what I base a relationship on, I just think those initial feelings are important but thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): I am not saying that sexual attraction and chemistry are not important. I am talking about that intense attraction that you have when you first meet someone....be wary of it because it isn't real. You can have sexual chemistry with someone that wasn't there upon first meeting and this usually develops because there is something deeper than just the chemical attraction.
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reader, dorothy2342  +, writes (3 January 2010):
 I don't agree. Thank goodness for those feelings. Why bother if their not there. I married the ideal man because I knew he was great husband material. I was right, but I never had those feelings for him before we married and I never had them ever, we were married for three years before I divorced him. You can't base a relationship on chemical attraction or sexual desire, but you can't have one without it. One does not necessarly follow the other. You can have both, don't be in such a big hurry, you will meet someone that rings your bell, then decide if he is worth your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): Count yourself lucky. Because I agree the feeling you are describing cannot be relied on at all. It is usually sexual attraction and nothing more. And sure that sort of attraction is important, but it isn't the least important for creating a good relationship built on trust and friendship. Once those kinds of things are built over time, then you might be able to trust that strong feeling of attraction because it is based on something much deeper than a fleeting butterflies in your stomach feeling.Don't feel too badly about that, a lot of people much older than you think that is love and they tend to be people who are never satisfied in their relationships because that feeling never lasts with ANYONE. They always end up either cheating on their partner or getting a divorce because this is the superficial stuff their love is made on.Recognize that love is friendship that has caught fire, not the fire. You have to have the steak and not just the sizzle, you know?Give a nice guy who works to earn your trust a chance to build your attraction for him. If you like the way he kisses that helps too....take care.
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (3 January 2010):
girl!! im 18 and i still havent felt that sort of chemistry..your still young for goodness sake..embrace it.your single now..take advantage of it girl.dont be a whore about it though.your prince will come when he's ready.good luck x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 January 2010):
It's because you're growing up. No longer is it just about the initial feeling, and no linger is it about just meeting someone. It's about developing far deeper relationships. You will meet someone who'll give you that feeling again. But it will mean a lot more next time.
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