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writes:I have a question, I get hung up on age, is ten years too much of a difference. Is it wrong if the girl is ten years older like if she is 32 and he is 22? Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (2 February 2011):
Rule of thumb is 1/2 age plus 7.
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reader, Withnail700 +, writes (1 February 2011):
 True love never worries about things like age. Love is love, period. It's the chemistry which matters. My bother's girlfriend is 12 years older, yet they both love each other and have just had a little boy. They are both very happy and very much in love!
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reader, OliviaAna +, writes (16 December 2010):
 At my age (48 spouse is 60) I'd have to say don't marry a man any more than 3 years older. We've been together 14 years. Kids have grown and moved out...we have the house all to ourselves and I'm incredibly bored with the relationship! His interests are now totally opposite from mine. Keep your relationships in a healthy age zone.
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reader, eagle101 +, writes (15 December 2010):
In my opinion it seems normal to me if the guy is older, because if we look at history that's the way it's always been. Younger women marked to older men. But that's my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): I posted the original question, thank you for all of your answers, would you agree that its more normal if the guy is older?
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reader, eagle101 +, writes (12 December 2010):
Well to me love is love. Take Charlie Chaplin and Oona Chaplin. He was 56 and she was 17 when they first dated. They ended up having 8 children together! Take Harrison Ford and his wife, Woodey Allen and his wife. They all love each other and their ages didn't get in he way. But this is my opinion.
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reader, chloebabeechick +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Age does matter, no matter what people want to admit. I'd say it matters dramatic for those 21 and under, moderately for those in their early 20s post 21, then drops off afterwards (of course talking about the younger party. I've had sexual relationships up until the time I was 21 that I felt straight up exploited in. Because of my experiences, I'd always urge the older party to err on the side of caution.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 December 2010):
 I agree, as long as you're legal. Age is really relative to the two who are in the relationship. Because there are those who abnormally seek sexual relationships with those who are younger, society has developed this believe that your intent, even with a 10 year difference, is within the same abnormality. This is also a misconception. I've spoken with many who have an age different, who are happy, and who truly love one another, without any alternative intent. The age will only be an issue, if you allow it to be.
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reader, Higherx  +, writes (11 December 2010):
Sounds a bit ageist. But a 10 year age difference is only a problem when you're I don't know, you're 15 and the other person is 25, because it's illegal. But if you're 44 and the other person is 54, then that's fine, it's legal. As long as it's legal, it's fine :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): there is noting wrong with the age diff you describe, its legal etc!
the problem is with diff age groups you can want diff things out of life.
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reader, Taylaa.x +, writes (11 December 2010):
I always believe that age isn't an issue. If you are attracted to someone and believe that you could develop a long term relationship with him then age doesnt matter. Obviously like the others have said, there will be other issues such as friends, and maturity, but i think if you want this to work then you will find a way to get around those things! My Mum and Step dad have a huge age difference and they are perfect for each other. He is 35 and she is 53! I think that prooves that you can make it work if you really want to!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): It's not wrong but there are many many difficulties and they rarely develop into life long relationships.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 December 2010):
 Once you get past 19, I always say from then on age is just a number. That's of course when you're mature enough to understand right from wrong involving crushes on teachers, legal age of consent and such.
Anyways, the thing I would be concerned about is this 22 year old male's maturity level. Is he done with college, or in college on a career path, is he past the phase of drinking, partying, and one night stands, and is he open to settling down in the near future? Since girls mature faster than boys, those are questions I would be asking myself.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (11 December 2010):
There's no such thing as too much of an age difference as long as the people are compatible and want to be with each other (and it is legal). The problem is that generally other people will judge (which is fine, just another difficulty). Also, a lot of the time, compatibility is an issue. If the woman is 32 and the guy is 22, does the woman want children and marriage soon? Would the guy be ready? What about joint friendships? Would they be able to find friends that both feel comfortable hanging around? Which age group? Similar interests?
Age isn't the issue. It's all the other things associated with age that becomes an issue: friends, maturity, biological clocks, interests, etc.
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