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writes:My boyfriend hits me and gets in my face all of them time and he will not let me do anything at all, what do i do about the abuse part of my relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Sweety just dump him ok!! No guy is worth you getting hit by them. You should also tell your parents or the police or whatever, because it is so not normal for a guy to be abusive like that. Talk about it to an adults. And I would suggesta restraining order if things get out of hands.
Hope I helped. Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): File a restraining order against him. Sever all ties with him. Case closed.
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reader, Odds +, writes (25 May 2011):
 The abuse and the relationship are inseperable. If a person is abusive, that's just how they relate. There's no changing it.
If you can't handle that, get out. If you *can* handle that - well, there's something terribly wrong and you need to seek help, after getting out.
Now, I'm sure this guy seems like he's great otherwise, or like he's really protective or really cares about you, or would be perfect if you could fix that one thing... all of these are bad ideas coming from the most primitve parts of your brain, the cavegirl instincts. For cavegirls, getting slapped around a bit was an acceptable price for having a protective and powerful mate. We've advanced beyond that, thank God, and you need to act accordingly. You can find be happy as a single girl, or you can find a man who's better in every way - and who doesn't slap you around.
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reader, Missy00 +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Get out of that relationship. No one should ever be physically or mentally abused. Tell family and call the police
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Tell your parents!! Let them help you through this. Or any trusted adult. You are a kid, you aren't supposed to be dealing with this alone.PLEASE tell someone right now!!
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reader, Tyedyedturtle +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Leave. Tell your family. Call the police. Press charges. Get a restraining order. Put him in jail for domestic violence. Refuse to be a victim to domestic abuse.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 You leave the relationship, tell your family what has happened and get them to report it to the police!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Call the police and tell your family so they can help you. It says your own 13-15 years old, far too young to be caught in something as terrible as this, you need to get help. I don't care how nice he is sometimes, I don't care that he might say sweet things to you and I certainly don't care if he makes promises to change if you ever threatened to break up with him, and neither should you. It will only get worse and worse until you are completely broken down. Reconnect with friends, stay with your family and make sure you are protected from his reach.
I hope that helps.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 May 2011):
Leave. Now! And tell an adult what is happening to you, so you can be protected. No man on earth has the right to hit you and control you this way. If you don't sort it now and end it, one day he'll hit you and you won't wake up. Please get away from him and tell someone this is happening.
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