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writes:Guys please help me.Is it true that some guys are scared of being knocked down by a very pretty girl and that you go for someone who is slightly more in your 'league' ?? I have friends who are told they are pretty the whole time and are not shy but the girls who are less attractive going out on a friday night with them get with someone and they dont, this happens regularly. Please answer, i am so confused about. I have heard so many different things. thankss! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): Heres how I see it,
If I get rejected by a babe, then I think, what can I do in order to get that girl?
In other words, when rejected, its like:
"You just gave me a challenge, and I WILL pass it!"
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 I have to say, as shallow as it might seem, most of the couples that I have known over the years that have had long and successful relationships are pretty evenly matched in the looks department. WHY? Not a clue. I suspect that we look at our potential mates as a reflection of how we see ourselves and how attractive we are in order to have attracted them in the first place. Check out my girlfriend, she's hot - therefore - by proxy - I'm hot too! And yes, I have often heard that some of the best-looking girls sit at home because the boys are intimidated. If it's yourself that you re refering to, make yourself a bit more approachable by starting up the conversation - that's the hard part for most guys. Once they see that you are talking with them, they at least feel like they have a chance! As far as looks go, truly, rcn is right, underneath the physical is an actual person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): rejection sucks and from my personal experiences i have found that 'girls in the league above' are more choosy, picky fussy whatever just that they will more likely turn you down. Most of my friends are intimidated by this fact so either ask someone closer to their league or not at all. However, i ask whomever i want and to not get deterred- however this yields a very low success rate. To answer the question, yes most but i stress not all guys are deterred if the girl is pretty and intelligent etc. However i have also noticed that the more popular the person is, the less people ask them out. hope i have helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): Yeah i'd say we are, or at least i am. When i see a good looking girl around who i am attracted to. The first thing i think is that she is way out of my leauge, there is probably a guy the other end of the room swinging his shoulders around with a cocky smile who she will go for instead. I always think that she can find better so i get nervous and back away. That or it is very likley that she is with someone.
I also can see how those presumptions can be as far away from the truth as possible, they very well could be single and lonley.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 I think the reasoning is a little more complex. Very pretty girls know they are very pretty, and they are used to seeing guys drooling over them. Some of us will not think with our brains when in the proximity of such a hot girl, and, therefore, these girls can sort of get away with anything. So, the girls might become picky, and they might treat you very bad (it happens). So, some guys might just decide that the Average Jane is a better option. Also, the Average Jane won't have so many flies around her all the time.
That said, I have to say that Some very pretty girls are also very kind girls. And some average-looking girls are very unkind. If you need to think why a guy would avoid a girl, I believe that her attitude is the most important factor.
As to someone being on your "league", where I live (at least) that usually means "someone who has about the same money/position as you". It doesn't really refer to being good-looking.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (8 December 2007):
 I just had a conversation with a single man at work the other day. We were teasing him about a single woman at work and he said..."men don't want to marry princesses, they want the regular girl. We can please the regular girl and she will appreciate us. We will never measure up in the princess's eyes. We will always worry that the princess will be hit on or that she will find someone better. So we want a regular girl."
Everyone laughed but he was dead serious. So I think there is some truth to that.
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reader, LULU'S Advice +, writes (8 December 2007):
 Boys and men are a very strange breed.They say women are complicated but I think we are easy to understand.I think some boys are afraid of very pretty girls,not just in case they get knocked back but also because of their mates,it's easier to just not ask out a pretty girl than have to take all the ribbing their mates would give them if they were unsucessful.I think the less pretty girls feel they don't have anything to live up to so just go out to enjoy themselves,so to other boys they seem a lot more easy going and easier to talk to.Hope this has helped. xx
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reader, michel  +, writes (8 December 2007):
Thats definately True. Wanted to admit or not Guys are generally scared of being turned down by pretty and intelligent girls, and just But a small percentige of them is couragious enough to go on and strive for.
Girls are not acception, The same thing applies to them too!!
But i must say,that it also depends on a person "openess" for people. I have many very very pretty friends, Some are alone being afraid and not open and some are not. It really depends..
But great number of them are stuck into relationships with Man that are far beyond their appearance and wit, only being afraid that becouse are attractive can be easily fall pray into Man manipulative hands...
Again it depends of the person and his/her attitude
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reader, omon  +, writes (8 December 2007):
 Lady,Here is what you need to know about guys;Firstly, no guy want to be tagged ''a failure'' so they go for what they can control because there is no gurantee that they can retain you when a stronger competitor comes around.Secondly, as long as you are pretty, the guy is not at rest coz he knows he is not the only one with ''eyez''.Thirdly, some guys will actually want to see your BF so they can know what your taste is and if they can ''fit in the league''.Lastly, they know what it takes to maintain a pretty girl so from where i come from, we look into our pockets and ask ourself a question ''can you meet up to the challange?''.
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 December 2007):
 This is one I answered before I hope it helps you.
You say he's too good. What makes you think that way. What if he felt that way about you? Did you know you're looking at him in a different way than he looks at himself? I remember when I watched a segment on GMT and they talked to Kenny Chesney. He had been named the #1 sexiest male in country music. When asked about it he said "I look at myself naked every day, and that never crossed my mind." He may be real sexy to you, but living with himself every day, He may not look at himself the same way you do.
There was something else I watched years ago which was pertaining to extremely good looking women. They were talking about how they were lonely and wanted a date for the weekend. They were irritated that they were never asked out and the reason behind that was perception. Men thought they were either too good for them or all ready taken.
Looks are only looks, underneath the physical is an actual person.
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