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writes: hey there, there is something that is really bugging me. My bf is currently working in another city, and we are devoted to each other, during the day we both get very busy, but I whether i'm busy or not always send him a sweet message or, how are you, love you, etc, even when I'm busy or cant chat, I always send him something. yesterday, I sent him a message and he never replied, eventually he sent one saying im busy, love you. later during that day i spoke with a mutual friend of ours and he said that he'd recieved messages from him, then later he's forwarding messages to everyone and I'm last to get anything, if anything?I know its silly, but it annoys me, I always send him something and he likes it, whether im busy as hell or not, it quick, befor he used to send me something, but now he's too busy to send anything to me, but has time for others??!I feel like not sending any messages to see if he even knotices.Am i being silly, or is there something else?Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): You are feeling hurt and I don't blame you feeling this way-when issues like this, bothers a person, they need to openly and honestly talk about it, hun. Don't confront-don't whine or complain-ask him calmly and clearly. Many of us don't like being this vulnerable in a love relationship..but it's okay to give yourself permission to do that and letting him know how this behaviour is hurting you. You must be willing to risk if you want to love. This is how it is for most of us. If you have fears about being open with him, then that stops the risks from taking place. So if you want to know "why" he's doing this-just ask him. How he answers you will be a good way for you to use your 'head' and discern whether he's being sincere and honest with you. You know him well so you will know. Good luck, dear
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (6 January 2006):
 Hi dearie, maybe u should talk to him first. Call him and tell him how u feel not through text so that u can hear his immediate reply. Make him know that u would like u guys to keep the connection there by sending more messages to each other as you said here. You two could perhaps fix a particular time to meet and chat online when u are sure both of u wont be busy.You shouldnt assume anything yet until u can hear what he says.
And again not everyone prefers sending the same messages they sent to their friends to their own girlfriends. he might have fowarded all his friends in his address book the same message.
It is always difficult having a long distance relationship. I have been there myself and i know that both couples keep needing reassures from each other since they cant see the other person always. U have to work hard if u want it to work.
As i have said earlier consider talking to him first.
Goodluck dear.
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