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writes:Hello Everyone,Me and my boyfriend were talking the other night about music and we were both watching the video to this song. I said one of the girls in the video was pretty and he said 'Yeah but the blonde is fitter'. I asked him if he likes blondes and he said he loved them, so I was like, oh, because I'm brunette. I like my hair a lot because it is natural and me, but I hate the thought he is more attracted to a blonde girl. So although I don't REALLY want to, should I dye my hair blonde? I can always dye it back.Any help is always appreciated :) thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, mgoose408a  +, writes (14 May 2011):
To tell you the truth sweety I would ask him if he would prefer if you go BLONDE or not then you will know. But, he did say he likes Blondes. I can tell you BLONDES DIB'T HAVE MORE FUN. I changed my hair color and they don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2011): Dont bleach your hair. It will damage it for ages, dry it out and make it brittle. You will be forever re-doing the roots and no boy is worth all that!
My advice would be invite him to save up and treat you to a lace wig if hes so keen on blondes! Let him put his money where his mouth is. Pick a lovely long cut. Then sometimes when you feel like fun and having a change, you can wear it and be a stunning blondie without doing your hair any harm at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2011): You have to want to do it for yourself in order to really work it. It's not a subtle change and you shouldn't do something so drastic if you end up really hating it and feeling properly self concious about your hair colour!
Just because he loves blondes doesn't mean he doesn't love your hair!
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (14 May 2011):
 NO, YOU SHOULD NOT CHANGE YOUR HAIR COLOR for him. You should never change for anyone.........be yourself and love what you were given. First of all he is now with you so he must like you the way you are. It doesn't even sound like he told you to change your hair color for him, it sounds like he was just trying to make you jealous by saying he likes blond girls. Don't fall for it. Laugh it off next time and act like it doesn't bother you and he eventually he wont try to get attention by making you insecure and jealous.
Hope this helps hun...........hugs!
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (13 May 2011):
 I think it's general with guys - they thin blondes are easy, when really they aren't.
You should not change for him, i have never dyed my hair and i never intend to even if my boyfriend said e prefered someone with black hair.
I think a boy should have more subtle ways of hiding what he's said, so I'm a little confused as to why he said that.
But you should never change your appearance, even caringGuy said that and hes male. He's practically the male oracle of this place, so you should take his advice.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 No, of course not. Don't dye your hair blonde. Or bleach it, as that is what you'd be doing. You'd completely ruin your hair in the process, just to mention that. Bleaching does serious damage to your hair, and it's not as easy to just dye it back... Bleach is stronger that dye, the dye will fade and the bleach will show again in no time. And then the after growth...
No missy, don't do it unless you want to ruin your head.
As for your boyfriend, just because he likes blondes doesn't mean he prefers them. He's with you after all, and not some blonde chick. If blonde hair was on his check list when he went scanning for a girlfriend, he wouldn't have ended up with you. He likes you. And he probably thinks your hair looks lovely as well.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 May 2011):
No. NEVER change your appearance or style or personality for a guy.
You are who you are, and the right guy will accept you for who you are. If you start changing for someone else, you won't like the results. More importantly, it won't suddenly mean your boyfriend will have more respect for you or love you more.
Also, your boyfriend did not say that he preferred blondes - he said that he preferred a particular blonde in a video.
Don't change - there's nothing wrong.
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reader, eek +, writes (13 May 2011):
 dont change your hair. Im sure your lovely as you are and if he loves you he should love you as you are.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Don't dye your hair for him. If you aren't comfortable with it then it will show and it won't look good. I am confused about you saying "the blonde is fitter". If that is a general statement then I hope you know he is wrong if he thinks blondes are more fit then the rest of the world.
You shouldn't do anything you are uncomfortable with for him or any guy because in the end you have to live with it. Plus is you do dye it and then go to dye it back so soon it can do tons of damage to your hair.
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