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writes:Hi, I'll get right to the point. I was for many years in love with a lady from my school. I told her i loved her many times but she thought of me as a geek and always dated the most popular guy in college, she took my love for granted. Well, 5 yrs later I am working, making something of my life, and I met her at the mall. Well, I am no longer the geek she knew, I am a grown man, and now she's after me. Should i date such a superficial woman? Who put me down most of our college days? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskPru  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 No, of course, you should not date a superficial woman who treated you like dirt ... but if you still have strong feelings for this woman, it might be an idea to have an exploratory meeting. Whilst you developed deep feelings during your school years, many folk do not and our teenage years are are full of confusion about relationships, compounded by peer pressure and social expectations. Unfortunately, many relationships conducted during school can be superficial and, possibly, this woman's decision to date the most popular guy in college was more to do with status than genuine feelings. Luckily, most people mature with age. I cannot guarantee that this woman has matured, but there is always the possibility that she is looking for different things in a relationship than she did at school. If you keep your sensible hat on there's no harm in meeting up. However, rather than a romantic date, I suggest a platonic date - start getting to know each other as friends. However, if you genuinely like her, you will have to move on from the past and not harbour any bitterness. Good luck! Pru
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (20 February 2011):
If you aren't attached to any one
Date her,get laid,have fun
And then dump her
I know my answer wont be appreciated by many but this is what i think is the right thing to do
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reader, Abass Abassi  +, writes (20 February 2011):
"Should i date such a superficial woman? Who put me down most of our college days?"u have given the answer urself. look at the above statement. u clearly say urself, that she is superficial woman and she put u down, then what is the need of having such a girl in life, who has no respect, no love nothing for u and treats u like an object.as like others i should have said very simply "No", coz everyone knows it should be no, but for ur satisfaction i gave bit explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): Superficial and shallow. Are those the kinds of qualities you look for in a girlfriend?
Just remember, if you were still the "geek" she wouldn't look at you twice. Forget her.
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reader, Kilcardy  +, writes (20 February 2011):
In a word, NO!
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reader, Cupid Boy  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 NO.
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