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writes:So I have been dating this for a bit over 2 months now and everything has been great. We see each other usually each weekend and whenever possible a time or 2 during the week. The other day we had a bit of a spat, it really wasn't huge, just about delays in returning calls when we get disconnected or whatever. She hasn't talked to me in the last 2 days and we used to talk every day. It's getting to me and I don't know what to do. Was I really out of line to bring this up? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): OP here again--
Thanks for all your input. I don't know what to say or do. We talked the other day finally about this issue, but now a totally different issue came up which involves a friend of mine whom I had know long before her. I think there's a bit of jealousy going on but she won't admit it. She said it's fine it talk to her, but I think that isn't the case. Oddly enough she talks to a few of her ex's on a daily basis. This is the oddest thing in which I have ever encountered. I care so much for this girl, but something as simple as this has her enraged. It almost seems as if it's hormonal. My friend suggested that idea. I guess at this point I'll just not contact her and see if she comes to her senses and sees that I'm a great guy and move on. Sigh........
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 February 2011):
2 months and she'a already acting this way? This would be an alarm bell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): She probably knows her phone etiquette is bad and she's just avoiding admitting she's in the wrong by avoiding you in general. I think you were in bounds to complain if it bothers you.
I'd let her make the first contact. If she wants to start a cold war over something like this, she's likely not worth the trouble.
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 "If we can't talk about something as petty as this, then how are we going to talk about something more serious?" Exactly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): OP here - - I don't want to get into major details just in case she reads this site, it'll be obvious, but lets just say when a call ends abruptly, there are huge delays from her returning it.I understand people get busy and I'm not trying to make her life revolve around me. She calls me every day, I rarely ever have to call her. So I'm not trying to make her life revolve around me.And don't get me wrong, I'm not fighting over delayed callbacks. I just asked a question nicely and out of curiosity. I was just hoping for an adult conversation. Not for her to be bent out of shape for something as trivial as this. If we can't talk about something as petty as this, then how are we going to talk about something more serious?
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reader, firstlovelastlove +, writes (25 February 2011):
I agree with TEM. She's doing this pretty early on in the relationship. I agree with some of the other people said 'more information please'. I wish you all the best!
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reader, inluvwlaw +, writes (25 February 2011):
not out of line but putting way to much thought into it get active in your life and start being more involved with yourself your sounding like your dependent on her so far she is showing unstable signs so possibly consider the leave and just breathe
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reader, raiders +, writes (25 February 2011):
 I think that if she delays in returning your calls could be because other things come up. You should understand that her life is not going to revolve around yours because she is her own person. You are already seeing her mutiple times a week and you two are just dating so maybe you are expecting a little to much. Lay back a little and choose your battles because fighing over delays calls when your just dating is not going to put you in good standing in her eyes.
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reader, TEM +, writes (25 February 2011):
 If she is giving you the silent treatment this early in the game, it doesn't bode well if what you want is a long term relationship.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (25 February 2011):
Yes I agree you need to tell us a little bit more about what you said to her, or what the spat was about so that we can advise you better.
However, epending on what was said, perhaps she is feeling very upset and her way of dealing with such things, is by going quiet.
Please come back with more info.
Cheers!
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