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writes:So I met this guy online, we went out for a date, I was totally into him and I reckon he was into me. We went back to his had a bit of fun (nothing too serious). I was smitten. I texted him the following day telling him it was great to meet him, he said it had been fun and I'd worn him out (in a good way). I figured it seemed like a good idea to follow it up with a second meeting, I asked him if he was free the following Monday. He responded 'Should be after work, what do you have in mind'. I sent him all the details, but heard nothing back for a day or two, so I followed up, asking if we were still on. That evening he responded with the following text:'Hey mate sorry gonna have to cancel for the time being got some shite personal issues to deal with. I'll make it up to you. Sorry Again.'This is the hardest message to interpret, what could the 'personal issues' be. What's the best way to deal with this without seeming desperate, the guy's great, I'm not sure if this is a cheap fob off or genuinely something is up. My gut instinct is to leave him to it, and if its meant to be he'll come back. But if he doesnt come back, either he's forgotten about me since these issues or it was all an easy escape hatch for him. What are everyone's thoughts?
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 Loops has it nailed. You can't really tell either way. Only time really can tell. If he's into you, he should get a hold of you at least within the next week or so. If he doesn't just chalk it up to a good time... and move on to someone more deserving.
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reader, lsickle +, writes (16 June 2010):
unfortunatly it can really only be one of three things. One dude is married and he had a little fun without any evidence. Aka freepass. The entire point of goin online and started chattin it up with u because he was bored, horney, took a bet, wanted attention, lonley, and so on and so forth and to cut the chase wanted a piece for the night. Or and this is a two parter took the (ride) and was either goin to make u a regular or what seems to be more likely a booty call...dont be surprised u get a call late from him askin if u want to party. I apologize for the bluntness which seems to be alot but i dont want to sugarcoat it. You asked a serious question which in turn deserved a serious answer. P.S. There is another possibility. He could have low self esteem, upset with his performance, didnt think u were satyisfied, or maybe he is intimidated and think he is way out of your league and tucked his tail between his legs and ducked for cover...i would say all posibilities are valid...my personal belief...his personal business is basically his significant other....wouldnt be suprised if that message u recieved is in the quick text file...u shouldnt get down on yourself u are a victim of a manipulitive bastard pardon my french
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reader, loops +, writes (16 June 2010):
I agree with your own gut instinct, leave him to it and if it's meant to be he will come back. You don't know either way if it's a fob off or the truth and it's pointless guessing, only time will tell if he gets back in touch with you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 Totally flake and totally cheap fob off.
He did have fun- that does not mean he wants to have a relationship, and,from his reaction, it does not even mean he wants to have fun on a semi-regular basis. I think he wants to leave it very casual and low maintenance, when-it-happens-it-happens,no planning. Therefore I think he will get in touch with you...at his own time and convenience. If you'd be comfortable with this situation, it's up to you to decide.
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