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writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for quite some time.(3.5 years) Recently when i looked at the computers history I noticed he was looking at M4M ads on craigslist(maleformale) This disgusted me so much, but I was even more disgusted when I saw him email and he had responded to one ad and said when and where can we meet up.... This grossed me out so much my whole body is shaking and I dont know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dizzy360 +, writes (21 April 2011):
WOW... Most gay men Dont have aids/Stds Aids/Stds are easier too spread through anal Intercourse Which about 40Precent of men and woman practice regularly? Friggen dumb excuse for being a homophobe... Anyway truth be truth he is cheating or trying to cheat at least I'd recommend confronting him first but breaking it off might be a better solution~
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): I would talk to him first. I began to have bi-curious tendencies a while back, and did the very same thing as him...but I chickened out every time. I found out from 2 of the guys I emailed back and forth a bit, that they chickened out too. It seems to happen a lot. Talk to him before assuming he did hook up. He may not have.
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reader, jc2008  +, writes (17 April 2011):
Looks like your dating a closet case. That obviously hurts like hell because its like he doesn't find you attractive and its not your fault. Unfortionatley society doesn't make it easy for guys to be openly gay though there are some that do identify as being interested in both. That aside its still cheating no matter how you dress it up. I'd confront him and ask him what does he want and remind him that this behavior is hurtfull. Wether you stay with him or not is up to you but you need to be strong in this situation.
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reader, TEM +, writes (15 April 2011):
 I know this is a horrible shock, but I'm sorry sweetie, you must leave him. In a way, it's good you found out fairly early in the game. He's cruising for gay hookups. This is really an unhealthy situation for you.
I'm no expert here, but I'm pretty sure once this sort of sexual excitement gets going, it not easy to stop. What I'm saying is the prognosis for this relationship ever being what you want it to be is not good. Get out now while you are still young.
You are still very young you know. There will be another guy, and he will be the right guy. You deserve better. Allow yourself to be open to that. In time you will see that breaking up with this guy was for the best.
Better to have learned this now, then years from now when you are married to him with kids, for example. I have a few friends that has happened to and it's the worst. Save yourself the heartache.
Best of luck,
TEM
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): Don't listen to what the others say. They act like it's a good thing here. It is not a good thing and who cares if you snooped on his computer! It's a good thing that you did! First off he's cheating on you with a man. Secondly, it's not just any man, it's a random man off the internet. Third, most gay man carry that deadly disease. I'm not trying to scare you darling but I suggest you end this relationship now. If this man continues to cheat on you with guys he will end up sleeping with the wrong dude and God forbid he passes something to you. You need to confront him on this immediately. What is wrong with these people telling you to fantasize about this?
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reader, curious-borg +, writes (14 April 2011):
Adios amigo.Seriously, why stay? He is cheating on you, with men. I'm no prude but I have to imagine that's 180º from what you want.You're young and he has to do what he feels he has to do. Adios amigo.
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reader, srs21 +, writes (14 April 2011):
Hi,
My only advice to you is to control yourself, he's only cheating on you, in a risky fashion. The rest of it is you being unsupportive about his decision about men, And first of all, being snoopy on his computer isn't right. If he found out you did that he probably be hurt and angry. He might have just been curious about what people post on craigslist.com Lot of people do that just to get amusement. Anyway stay calm and talk to him and show him that you love him. Good luck. :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (14 April 2011):
 He's curious, but he's also cheating. He may have realized that women don't do it for him, or that he's bisexual, but that's still no excuse to cheat.
I think you should confront him. Focus on the cheating instead of the sexuality issue.
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (14 April 2011):
Let your imagination run free on what they're going to do together (and which role your boyfriend will take) and act accordingly.
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