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writes:Hi I am in my mid twenty's I have been with my b/f for little over a year and I am pregnant with his child but I still think a Lot about my ex which I was with for 9 years is it love or not?
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reader, red1982  +, writes (17 January 2008):
HI there
I seemed to think about my first love a lot when I was pregnant with both of my children. I'm not sure why this was because I love my husband dearly. I think maybe because me and my first love talked about getting married and having kids etc and obviously never did wither so maybe it stirred up memories - that combined with hormones.....
Also having a baby with someone is a really big commitment and I think that plays on your mind a lot and makes you wonder if you have chosen the right partner to be a father.
As long as you love your current boyfriend I would ignore these feelings as best you can and concentrate on your current relationship and eventually you will stop thinking about your ex as much.
I wish you luck with your new baby.
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Well, you were with him for a lot of your life! A good bit of your memories involve him, so of course you will still think of him and maybe even still love him! Obviously there is a reason why you aren't together anymore, and you have a family now to love and who love you. You don't have to stop loving him as a person and a friend.
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Maybe your slightly upset because your pregnant with your bf's baby and not our ex's?And it's natural to think of your ex's from time to time, i'm sure everyone does it..it doesn't mean to say that your not in love with your current partener..just that your thinking of the past and what you had so don't worry..Can i ask if you wanted to finish with you ex boyfriend or not? And did you want a child with him?Feel free to contact me~Krissy [x]
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reader, rcn +, writes (17 January 2008):
 I still think of my ex's too from time to time. All though they didn't work out, you can't turn off memories or how the relationship its self impacted where you may be today.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Your ex have left a lasting impression on you which you cannot forget. It is apart of your life.I am sure you have loved him alot once and you cannot help sometimes when you reminisced those times you were with him.
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reader, living and learning +, writes (17 January 2008):
YOU CANT TURN LOVE ON AND OFF LIKE A FAUCET.I think what you are feeling is totally natural. You were with the guy for 9 years. That doesnt just go away. Your life is about to seriously change with the new addition.I also thought about my ex when i became pregnant from my husband, but for me the issue was I thought he was the one, the father and the husband, but things worked out a little differently then I had hoped.I knew once I was pregnant the thought of us ever getting back together was forever gone. I heard from a reliable source that when he found out he was really hurt aparently he felt i was the one for him.Life is short, be honest with self and contact him to see where it goes.Congradulations on the baby!
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