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writes: I'm a 15-year-old girl and going out with a guy only a month younger than me. He's a total sweetie and we've been going out for three months. We've made out and he's felt under my bra. But he wants to take my bra off. No sex, but sucking... I'm not comfortable with this. I feel to young. What do I do? Am I really too young or is it just a matter of being comfortable with him? If he ever tried "anything" I could stop him.
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reader, kt  +, writes (9 February 2006):
 hi, if you think you are to young then you are, thats my opinion. just tell him. i know it wont be easy, but you will get over him alot more quicker (if he takes it the wrong way) than you will get over the memory.and you never know he might be really understanding.my boyfriend did the same thing and my friend just told me to just gently push him away and say no i dont want to do that. dont forget that a relationship will only work if you are doing stuff you both enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2006): Hi. My Name is Tyrell. I live in California. Well to help you out with that situation. GIRL YOU ARE TOO YOUNG!!! You shouldn't even be letting him do that at all. If you are serious with him, then take things slow. Sex shouldn't even be on your mind. Tell him that he needs to give you your space and if he can't respect that, then he needs to move on forward. You are 15 years old, you should be concentrating more on your school than anythings else. I'm assuming that you are in hight school. Right now that is more important than anything. Just get your education and put guys 2nd. I know that you know what to do. But honestly, just lay off the sex, tell him to back off and quit having the mind of a pervert and tell him to treat you like a lady, not a whore. take care...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2006): Every woman in the world, most likely, can think of a time that they felt uncomfortable with a particular level of intimacy, but they went ahead and did it anyway. They wanted the guy to like them. Everyone made it seem like it was no big deal. They felt guilty for being a tease or leading the guy on or getting him worked up with no release. They really cared about the guy, and they wanted to make him happy.Out of all these women, there is not a single one in the world who doesn't wish she could have that moment back - who doesn't grow up to wish she could talk to the girl she was back then, to encourage her that there's no right answer when it comes to what you want or what you feel comfortable with. To remind her that the only thing she really has in this world is who she is, so she has to be true to that.You wouldn't have written a post here if you felt completely comfortable with where your bf wants things to go. So don't go there. It will be hard; you may even lose a bf or two. But in the end, you will feel good about yourself, because you stood up for what YOU wanted and what YOU felt comfortable with. Don't ever let anyone tell you there's something wrong with that, whatever their reasons.
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reader, sassyalis402 +, writes (8 February 2006):
hey, everything happens in it's own time. No need to rush, one step at a time cuz maybe he's comfortable at that point. He's experimenting jus as you cuz you both are young. So don't feel weird or anyhow, when it happens it happens!
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reader, smeedle +, writes (7 February 2006):
 He is trying it on and seeing how far you will go, you have decided you like kissing and cuddling but dont want him to go beyond this for the moment, thats cool, you stick with what you feel comfortable with and tell him that is all you want.
Do`nt do anything you dont want and do remember he realy is just experimenting himself so will push you.
You have a life time ahead of you so take your time.
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reader, charlie432 +, writes (7 February 2006):
I lost my virginity when I was 14, to someone I wasn't going out with, and someone I didn't have much feelings for. I don't regret it as everything happens for a reason and it has made me the person I am today, *however* if I had asked someone about it and they told me I was too young, I wouldn't have done it. You are definately too young, don't let yourself be pushed into anything you don't want to do if you don't feel ready. END OF! be selfish! do what you want to do, not what he wants to do or because you feel like you should! Hope all goes well, Charlie x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2006): its not that you are too young, you are right in saying that its if you feel comfortable with the person. I had my first serious relationship when i was alsmost 16, when i was 15 i was going out with a guy and just like ourself he tried to take off my bra and tried to force my hand down his trousers. i didnt feel comfortable and did not do it, needless to say the relationship ended. then i met my 1st serious boyfriend only months later and it all felt right. Yes 15 is too young for sex, but I believe being intimate is fine as long as you are both comfortable and willing, and are safe. Kel 21
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reader, chrissymarie +, writes (7 February 2006):
 hi i am a 16 year old girl...and to be honest with you dont rush into things, you are still to young too be doing things like that, once you do something with one guy they will all be expecting you to do it to them to, and u will be teased in school, take it slow if the boy you are with cant wait then you dont need him you will find someone who will respect you and your body, take it slow 3 months is nothing...i hope i helped a little atlease
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reader, ourchosenpaths +, writes (7 February 2006):
 Listen, this is very important. If he tries to make you do anything you dont want to, he is being selfish. He might be really sweet and charming, but that's an easy disguise. You are DEFINATELY too young, believe me. If you do ANYTHING like this at such a young age, you are going to really regret it, and it will bother you later. Kissing is fine, but you have to tell him you aren't comfortable with what he's trying to do, and if he doesn't stop you guys are over, because he's inconsiderate and only interested in what he wants, not what you want.
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