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*ayLeighP
writes:I'm 14, female, and well I thought I was gay. I have always found girls attractive. I have had a couple boyfriends, but I felt bad because I never really "liked" them. I've had very strong feelings for girls. I've even told a girl that I love her. I verrry rarely find guys attractive, but the weird thing is that when I talk to guys on IM or something or when a guy is acting flirty around me I feel a bit nervous. I don't know why. I really thought I was gay, not bi. So I'm confused...
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reader, KayLeighP +, writes (26 November 2009):
KayLeighP is verified as being by the original poster of the question thnx everyone for the advice. sorry i wasnt trying to rush into anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Yeah you might not have met the right guy (or girl for that matter) yet to know. You might be bi with a preference for women even. I am bisexual with a preference for women, I like they way the look and are more attracted to women. But I am not attracted to being in a relationship with women, Ive only been in relationships with men, and Im perfectly happy and content. To me they don't come off as attractive at first, but once I bond with a man their looks kinda "change" in my eyes and they become very attractive.
I have been a bit confused about myself too, but now I figured out exactly what I prefer, and Im happy doing what I like (even though some will tell me Im a lesbian I dont buy into that because I know I love being with men too).
Bottom line is: do what you like and dont worry about whether or not you are lesbian or straight. If you happen to like a guy and want to be with him you can do it, even if everyone else thinks you are lesbian. And if you end up in love with a woman, that is fine too! Just remember to stay true to you and not a label.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Maybe you just haven't ran into the kind of guy that you like!! STOP RUSHING THINGS YOU ARE YOUNG. Once the right guy comes along he will sweep you off of your feet. If you feel threatened by woman maybe you are insecure. Develop your own personality and character, Get your hair nails make up done, Girly stuff. Be you, and work on YOU. It's still early in life, you should not become sexually active at that age. Give yourself time. Everyone gets confused but most don't admit. Think about what type of guy you would like? Being bisexual is not bad either. But you will need to choose if you are going to be in a long term relationship with one, LATER IN LIFE. You are young sweetie. Be a good girl, be a girl.
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reader, DiamondGirlx  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 Im sorry i know this isnt really much advice but i really want to know how you know at that age what you want to be??
I mean you've sed you have had a 'couple' of boyfriends, your only 14 dont you think ur rushing yourself abit??
I know this most probably isnt help to you but maybe its something you shud think about.
:) D.Gx
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reader, taylor8790 +, writes (26 November 2009):
 Youre bound to be confused. During puberty girls tend to get confused about things such as their sexuality. Its all down to hormones.
Youre also going to feel a little nervous when guys flirt with you, Im sure you'll get used to it eventually.
You may be gay, but it's nothing to be ashamed of
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