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writes:My girlfriend won't let me finish in her mouth. She is grossed out by semen. How do I get her to open up to the idea.She also does not want to experiment with taking it up the butt even though she did it with someone else previously. Is it disrespectful for me to push this issue?Other than that, sex is great
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reader, Garcia C  +, writes (24 June 2018):
The girl needs to try it at least once before she says she don't like it. And is not good to push her but if you don't you will always be treated by a no answer. I suggested quite a few times to my gf to try anal, until she finally accepted. Turns out she likes it after all. Keep trying is my advice
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reader, xtwinklex  +, writes (20 November 2010):
Hmm, I'm kinda torn between saying YES and NO.
Here's why -
Yes, it's disrespectful to push your partner to do things they are 100% against. They have clearly made their decision and forcing the issue is going to do nothing but cause friction and resentment. And as you said, the sex is otherwise great - part of me wants to say don't be greedy and ruin something good just for the sake of extras?
No, it's not disrespectful to calmly and adultly discuss with your partner the reasons you would like to try certain things with them and also the reasons why they are somewhat opposed to it. If there is a reason from a previous relationship (i.e the one where she did things she won't with you) why she is against anal sex for example, ask if she'd like to share why. But ASK, don't PUSH.
People always assume the worst of blokes when it comes to wanting to try new things sexually *sigh*. You've not actually said you've been trying to force the issue though so, benefit of the doubt yes?
I think the key here is to discuss, but also to know where to stop too. Maybe anal sex was painful with her previous partner and she expects the same? If so, let her know you will go slow..AND MEAN IT! Maybe a previous partner came in her mouth and she wasn't expecting it - I've had that and it's not a nice experience or one I want repeat! Maybe the expected taste puts her off? Lots of maybe's you could discuss, and if she comes round to it take things at HER pace :)
And if she's still 100% against it - give up :) you've both talked about it like calm equals and a conclusion has been met so then I'd definitely say don't push it!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 November 2010):
 I do not suggest tricking her into taking it in the mouth by not pulling out fast enough. Tricking your wife into doing sexual acts that she isn't comfortable doing is VERY disrespectful, hurtful and wrong. Once again, I do not recommend giving her a dose hoping that she will suddenly see that she loves it. While it may work for some people, it seems pretty low to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): I didn't like the thought of my boyfriend cumming in my mouth either, until one time he didn't pull out fast enough and I got a good dose in my mouth, and didn't mind it. It is a big turnon now when he is about to cum,he lets me know so I can get ready and get a cumshot in the mouth. I have even started to swallow it. You have to get use to the taste.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): Yes it is disrespectful and you should accept that she doesn't want to. You should respect that she doesn't like it. Maybe she did have anal sex with somebody else but by the sounds of it she didn't like it. There are many other things you can do. Ask her what she likes and don't make it all about you.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Yes it's disrespectful. Think for a second, would YOU want semen in your mouth? Would YOU want to take it up the butt?
Chances are the answer is no. So why should she?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Yes, it disrespectful. And very annoying too. I think that if you keep pushing this issue , she'll get fed up and may want to dump you.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 November 2010):
I guess I'm just reiterating the two others (who gave great advice)...
Yes, it is disrespectful! If she has told you she's not comfortable or interested, you should not push the issue. She's done it before - she didn't enjoy it - she doesn't want to do it again. End of story.
If you have an otherwise great sex life, could she be open to other things? There are endless new things to try, toys to sample, games to play, positions to test. I have to say, I'm kind of on board with your wife in the things she's not happy doing... and I'm an opened minded kind of girl. But unlike you, my husband is incredibly satisfied with how enthusiastic I am in other regards. Find other fantasies to share with your wife, maybe she'll be game!
Don't push her - it's disrespectful and hurtful. Be creative and have fun that you can both enjoy. Good luck!
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reader, JoshB667  +, writes (20 November 2010):
She shouldn't have to. Forgive the bluntness, but perhaps you have been watching too much porn, and have an unrealistic expectation on how a woman behaves during sex.
I urge you to read this article
http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/porn-has-hijacked-sexuality-and-is-destroying-men-20101013-16jy4.html?comments=210
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reader, xanthic +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Yes, it's disrespectful. She has every right to decline doing something she's not comfortable with and clearly dislikes, find something else to do and don't push the issue if she's not into it. You'll just have to respect her choice to do what she wants with her body.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Yes, it is disrespectful. If she has done it before, the only reason why she would not do it again is because she did not like it so you cannot force that upon her.
She is clearly not comfortable with letting you finish in her mouth so do not force it. Remember that when you have sex, you are trying to please her as much as she is trying to please you so do not make her do something she is uncomfortable with. Try other things, there are hundreds of different sexual positions or techniques, try those.
I hope that helps.
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