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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I used to like a guy in my class a lot while at school. Since I am a kind of very shy girl, I never talked to him about this. Our conversations were largely related to studies and career. Though it has been many years now and we are hardly in any contact now, live in different cities also, I still can't think beyond him and feel that I should give it a chance at least. I know he is single. But since I am so very much interested in him, I am scared at the very thought of... what if he refuses me? I can't rather should not go on like this with my life. I know, but still can't gather enough courage to say it to him... what should I do? How should I approach him on phone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): You are already his friend. So you should not worry much about the outcome. If he is a good guy, he will make sure that you don't feel hurt even if he turns you down. So trust him on that.
My observation is that men are much smarter to pick up "Something more than friends" vibes than women. But I would request you to just ask him out for a coffee casually where you both are alone. Talk to him that you think a lot about him and do like him. Try to see if he has similar feelings for you.
If he says, I haven't thought about it or as such, just move on. No point in having a one-sided feeling.
If yes, make merry !
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