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writes:This may be long but please help me outOk so my gf left me a month ago. The final talk we had she said for me to let her go if i loved her as much as i said i did and that i wasnt giving her space and so i did, she also said we cant get back together because she wouldnt be happy with me because all she sees is a bf who lies. (i flirted and lied about it) I havent called her, txt her, msged her on msn for 3 weeks. So thats 3 weeks of no contact. But she then called me out of nowhere, but i missed her call as i was busy, so i called her back. I asked her if she called me, she said she called me by accident and that was the end of that, BUT later the same night she called me back and we talked. She said she didnt call by accident that she actually DID call me but didnt know why she said she called me by accident. We started talking normally and i talked to her as a friend as i should have, then SHE was the one who brought up our relatinoship she said that even though she said she wanted to let go she couldnt, because i was someone who is important in her life that i made such an impact in her life that she couldnt let me go like that. She said she hopes we can be friends and be there for each other. She also said that Its not impossible for us to be back together but she doesnt see us as a couple anymore, she also said we can be happy together but for how long? she emphasized that she doesnt trust me at all, but i told her that i loved her still and all the pain i went through that she put me through i didnt care about it and i deserved it. That i only loved her and every word i meant when i told her that. She really emphasized that she has that "fear". This is probably implying that she is scared i might hurt her again...Now my question to you guys is. Is this a good sign or a bad sign? And what do i do from here? i dont want to move on becaue i love her so much even though my actions dont prove it but i honestly do and am willing to do anything to get her back. Do you guys see there is any hope for me to win her back? Now its been a week since she called me and i havent heard from her since....please help me =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): Mate,
i hope i'm not too late but..you need to go for it. Strike while the fire is hot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Do you TRULY TRULY love her. If so, you need to prove it to her not just by words but by actions. She obviously has felt some pain caused by you in the past and it turned into fear. Now that is has succumbed to this, if you truly want her back, you need to do every thing and any thing possible to win her love back. It's really hard to trust a liar or a cheater (not saying that you are these things) but te first step is to show her in action that you are ready to do all that you can to make this work again. After that, hopefully you will make you way slowly into her heart where trust will be formed again. Good luck to both you and her.
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reader, shikari424  +, writes (31 January 2008):
I'd say give it a shot yeah.
Get in touch and promise her everything you've just said. You know what she wants, if you can give it to her, you stand a good chance.
Good luck
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