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writes:hi recently i kissed one of my friends boyfriends, i really like him and a couple of friends have told me he likes me more than his own girlfriend. he had made a pass at me a few times before this time and i rejected them, then finally i just gave in and kissed him back. What shall i do? shall i tell my friend? or just stop anything else that might happen with him? thanks xx Reply to this Question
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reader, penta +, writes (29 August 2007):
 If he cheats WITH you, he'll cheat ON you. Do not continue this.
As for whether you should tell your friend, reverse the situation. If you were dating someone and he was flirting with your friend and she finally kissed him, would you want her to tell you?
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (29 August 2007):
Tell your friend. Wouldn't you want to know if he was your boyfriend and he kissed your friend? Friends watch out for each other.
If you end up going further (NOT recommended), then wait until they break up, but realize your friendship would be jeopardized and don't expect him not to kiss other girls on the side.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Here are some really easy rules for making your life REALLY simple:
Don't date your friend's boyfriend's.
Don't date friends of friends.
Don't date relatives.
Don't date friends of relatives.
Don't date relatives of friends.
Seriously, there are so many things that can go wrong with ALL of those relationships, Life is too short for all the possible complications. I highly recommend dating total strangers, after you check them out. I dated my brother's girlfriend's brother. My relationship with my brother was seriously damaged after that, and is still is touchy to this day, 40 years later. I have also been married for 30 years to a guy that I met, total stranger, at a Uni dance. I'm basing this Solely on my own life experiences. You do stand to lose a friendship here. Best of luck with your decision.
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reader, metalinvasion92 +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Well i kind of recommend that you make sure he dumps his gf before u go any farther. trust me if u make a relationship break up u will be called tons of things .... ive seen it happen to alot of my friends. And with the kissing thing that happened to me and one of my friends and i am still dating her to this day so if he dumps her then go for it but other wise just kinda remain friends and only friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): If you want to be with the kind of guy who tries chasing his girlfriend's friend behind his girlfriend's back (that could be you some day)then go for it, more power to you!!But I don't see it as being a great idea.. Chances are that it won't work out with you and him and you'll also lose a friend and make your other friends hesitant to trust you.
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Hi there,
You have to let your conscience be your guide here....
Tell your friend if you must, but don't be suprised if you lose her friendship, she may feel she can no longer trust you.
If you really like this guy and are not too bothered what your friend thinks should you end up with her guy, tell him to finish with her first before letting it go any further, let him make his mind up who he wants to be with, don't go behind your friend's back it will only bring you grief....
Good luck.
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reader, chilly-18 +, writes (28 August 2007):
 well in this situation you need to think about what you want most. do you want this guy who you might break up with later on in life? or your mate who you will prob have for a few years to come?. you really need to confront your friend about it. sit her down and tell her what happened. as i said you need to decide who you want most. this is your decision to make. dont be forced into something you dont want. my sisters been in this situation and she told her firned and she lisened to her and understood. if she is a true friend she will understnad. and besides, it wasn't you who made the move was it?
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reader, mollie321 +, writes (28 August 2007):
hey there,theres many things you could do, but personally if this guy is a big enough jerk to cheat on his girlfriend, as much as you like him you have to think is it worth loosing your friend over?if your scared of loosing your friend and dont plan on doing anything else with this guy, then dont tell your friend and tell the guy nothings going to happen between you two again.however if you think this guy is worth it,then you will have to tell this boy he has to end it with your friend before anything can even begin to happen with you guys.i hope this has helped babestake care xxx
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