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writes:Here's the deal, several years ago I was heartbroken by an ex that tore out my heart and threw it in the trash:(, so sad I know, but moving on I've moved on since then, I mean my God that was high school lol. But I think about her here and there still. She was my first love after all. Last week I ran into her and she states she's been in several very bad relationships the past several years and she thought about me a lot since high school. Now not to be concieted or brag on my status, but I've been much better off since she remembers me last, it took me awhile but I believe I'm a catch nowadays. So I think she kinda saw that because she wanted to get back with me. I mean, stressed it that she wants to get back with me. Her being appologetic is saying it lightly. I need sum feed back, should I invest in her again? She really hurt me and I was sore for years in my heart after her. I got her number and I haven't called her yet, what should I do?
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (16 August 2009):
 Its very hard to take someone back that trashed you out like that. I am going through that now as she revolved in and out of my life, and this time the break was excruciating.I would advise caution and make sure there's more of an emotional commitment than a desire to jump your bones and trash you a 2nd time. That would be pretty bad. Really bad. I mean horribly bad!Did I mention this? You don't want her to break your heart a 2nd time. Ouch! Don't do it buddy. Red flags here.So my suggestion is make her go out with you for several months. Like enough time for her to be begging for sex. And if it gets to that, you can decide whether to keep her or frankly dump her and move on.It seems she's superficial anyway, so I am guessing its your call. But don't get all wrapped up with her until you can really trust her with your heart again.That's all I'm getting at. But hey, I didn't follow my own advice so just end up like me.
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reader, meganutts +, writes (16 August 2009):
meganutts is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank u ladies, ur awesome.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (16 August 2009):
 I think what everyone else is saying is pretty right on. But definitely get to know her again FIRST. I have some experience with this. Same situation with me. But after a little while I realized she wasn't the same person that I liked before. Also I was not the same either. You may find that you just don't care for her like that anymore. But, if you feel like it, do give her another chance. No harm in that.
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reader, kittykhaos  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 People grow up and maybe if she was your first love and you think about her and she thinks about you theres something there. Take her our for a few drinks maybe some food and see if she has grown up and if there is any attachment there. Your not obligated to go out with her but you may kick yourself if you don't give her another shot as you said "god it was high school" lol x
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reader, Jay_xxxxx +, writes (15 August 2009):
 I know you will be feeling down that she hurt you and that you couldn't get over it and maybe you still can't, but time has changed and so do people. Maybe after her bad relationships she has relized that she hurt you, but hopes that you'll forgive her for it. I think you shoud call her and get to know the new her and she can get to know the new you. If you find that you like her then theres your answer for your question. But don't forget that it's your future and feelings that you are brining into this so follow them. Hope I helped Jay x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): You don't say if your currently in a relationship, but if your not, what do you have to lose? Take a chance - she's hurt you once, odds are it will take a while before you trust her 100%, so you're probably ok... Enjoy it for what it is at the moment, not what it might be...
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (15 August 2009):
I would say it doesnt hurt to meet up and talk to her? you dont have to be with her in a relationship or date her right away. just talk and meet up a couple times and see how that goes. :)Its your call at the end of the day coz she broke your heart. Now if your instincts ask you to give her a chance, do so. Afterall everyone deserves a second chance :)Hope it helpedLove
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