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writes:im 18 female and hes 19 male. So over the last 5 months me and this guy grew close very very quickly. we're best friends but i also have really strong feelings for him, and well i dont know if im the 'mystery girl' he likes. ive had a few indications that maybe i could be this mystery girl he likes...and then sometimes he says really confusing things that makes me think otherwise...Some of the indications ive had that perhaps i am his mystery girl are: - he once answered on a social site where you can ask people questions anonymously (great for getting info out of people) and someone asked him why he was feeling only just okay. he wrote this massive paragraph about how he likes this girl but he doesnt want to move to quickly and ruin it with her...he wants to know if its right, and if it is he wants to do it right too. he also mentioned he doesnt want to regret not staying single longer either, and that hes really confused because he doesnt know whether he wants a girlfriend or to be single a little bit longer. after just coming out of a 5 year relationship 7 months ago. anyway so i read it, and he absolutely freaked out that i'd seen it. and he said he felt like an idiot and didnt want me to see it, he even tried to delete it but i had already seen it so i was too late. i didnt understand why he wouldnt want me to see it and whatnot...so i thought, that perhaps i am the girl he likes. I couldnt think of why he wouldnt tell me who it was. He then told me "ill tell you one day" - someone also asked him how he met the mystery girl. he responded "we just randomly started talking one day =]" which is pretty much how we did meet. i had his msn and randomly started talking to him one night, and we full opened up to each other and the rest is history. - One night on skype he was playing cute little love songs to me and whatnot, and he played this one song in particular called pulse- hit the lights. and told me how the lyrics had alot of meaning for him at the moment. again he told me "ill tell you one day =]" He tries to answer any questions about said mystery girl without giving too much away. he doesn't want her to know just yet. even though people are urging him to tell her how he feels. He has all these plans about how if he decides that its right hes going to do it right, and put his 'plans to action'. This is where things get complicated and i get confused though. okay one night we met up at a bar, we were both completely drunk. and well we kissed for the first time. a couple of days passed and i never brought the kiss up...not sure if he remembered it at all. eventually he told me that he kissed someone that night, one of his other friends i met that night. he then started freaking out that i saw them kiss. i assured him that i didnt, and then confessed to him that we too kissed. He was too drunk and didnt rememeber it at all. he replied back to me. "totes facepalming. this wasnt meant to happen yet ." and then texted me straight after saying "ignore that last text" and then he texted again saying "ill tell you what that text meant one day" so anywho, we continued on, when a month later he got another question, this time asking if hes kissed this mystery girl. he responded with "nope! not that i remember!" and immeadiatley that triggered the thought that it couldnt possibly be me because we had kissed. Then someone asked him "what do you mean you dont rememeber?" and he responded with "im drunk most of the time and dont remember things. i hope i didnt though cause that would ruin my plans!" confused i talked to a couple of friends who told me that i still could be the mystery girl, that he could actually think it didnt count or didnt happen because he doesnt remember it. and again the whole plans thing made me think...because he said when i told him that month before that "it wasnt meant to happen yet ." like he was planning our first kiss... anyways, the other day i went over his house again, played some video games and watched some movies and whatnot. i had the mentality that if nothing happened that it would be clear i wasn't the mystery girl after all. Then halfway through the second movie..he told me to come cuddle with him, so we were watching the movie snuggled up together. and to be honest, it was like heaven to me and i felt extremely safe in his arms. anyway the day continued on and for about an hour, we were just sitting on the couch looking across at each other, trying to think of something to do. he told me something i found odd, hes like "Im fine with just sitting here for an hour looking at you" and thats exactly what he did, he stared at me for and hour, occasionally pretending to fall asleep but then peek back at me. Thats something i liked about being with him, we could be doing absolutely nothing yet i would still treasure every moment...i wasnt bored or anything, i was just content being in his company. Anyway, we texted that night after he dropped me off at the train station (seeing as we live an hour apart) and i left still unsure of his feelings for me. i got home and saw someone had asked him, whens the last time you saw her? and he said "wouldnt you like to know ;P" again not giving anything away. and so we have been texting still and whatnot, him saying insanely cute things like he used to (there was a couple of weeks we barely texted :c) saying how he wished i had of stayed the night for more cuddles and everything. but he worried me cause he didnt say he had a good time like he did after the last time i visited his house. and i felt like maybe i had bored him to death or he didnt want to hang out again. anyways he was texting me last night saying how he wished we lived closer so we could hang out all the time and whatnot. He also mentioned that he was talking to his best friend about me, and not to ask what about because "ill never tell you ever" and how "its not anything bad, i promise :3" but if he was saying to his friend that he liked me or something... implying that he would never ever tell me, means he thinks were never going to be together or something. he also answered another question that got me thinking maybe its not me.. someone again asked him if he misses her when she leaves. and he responded with "who said we hang out ;P" im so confused .
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): To me it sounds like he has several girls he is stringing along this way. I think the whole mystery girl thing is a game, a way to keep various girls keen on him and working hard to be that girl he speaks of on FB. It does seem to be working! What you should be paying attention to is his actions, which speak the truth, and his actions are that of someone who is just treating you as a convenience and not someone he likes as a girlfriend. I think you are being suckered and played for a fool by this guy.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (16 April 2011):
 Wow, as much as we would all love to be mind readers... we aren't.
If you want to know the truth then you have to just ask him if you are the 'mystery girl' or not...
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