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writes:My ex(he broke up with me,we lived together for 3yrs)We haven't talked in 9mths when the other day he asked my daughter to ask me to call him. He's always been painfully shy. He did date someone while we where apart that went horrible wrong. He found out she was cheating on him with her ex husband the entire time they where together. They've been broken up for 3 months when he ask my daughter. The question is could he really be missing me and what we had? We split when he started to get very depressed and became reclusive.
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (2 February 2010):
 I think he could really be missing you. It seems that you broke up because he wasn't in a position to be in a relationship (the mentioned depression). If you give him another chance, you should treat it like a fresh start. Not a continuation of the previous relationship/picking up where you left off.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 February 2010):
 It could be that he feels safe talking to you, it could be he's looking for a "re-bound-girl".
I guess it's up to you if you want to talk to him or not.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 February 2010):
Be very careful. The problem here is he is an ex, which means it wasn't going well in the first place. And now he's lost this other woman, it's more likely he's come back to you because he needs someone to show him emotion. This has all the hallmarks of a rebound to be honest. I think you would be better leaving him in the past.
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reader, loops +, writes (1 February 2010):
It doesn't really matter what he's thinking, this one is down to you. We are quick to jump back into old relationships because they are familiar. Are you happy to see this guy knowing that he may be contacting you to restart it? Remember why you split up in order to make an informed choice, from this you can decide whether to contact him or not. Then you need to establish why he has got in touch with you, it could just be that he wants to be friends, but ill be honest after 3 months of being split up and a very unhappy relationship this is probably very unlikely, he may just want something casual and feel you may offer him it.
Tread carefully, hes been badly hurt and probably wont consider your feelings, so you need to consider your own first.
Good luck
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reader, samehere +, writes (1 February 2010):
 That's tricky. The only person who would know the answer to this question is him. If you still care about him, give it a shot. See what he's up to and what does he have in mind. However, be careful. Don't invest too many emotions in this. It might all go wrong again between you guys. Just go with the flow and see where this thing leads. It might be a good thing - you'll never know. it's always good to figure it out than always sit there and wonder about it. Obviously, you are wondering about it, so give it a shot. Good lucK :)
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