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writes:I am 12 years old and my boyfriend is 15. He told me the other night he wanted to have sex. I was playing around and said yeah ok then he was like do i need to bring condoms. I was like yeah then we didnt do it but still he wants to next weekend. What should i do? help me a.s.a.p
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): hun, don't do it! and first of all you shouldn't have said yea because when you did it gave him the empression that you wanted to and was ready. just tell him that you were just playin around when ye=ou said yea and ain't ready maybe in the future but not, and if he really loves you then he'll understand.
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reader, love_on_the_rocks__h3art  +, writes (16 December 2007):
I was 16 when I had sex and regret having it so young.
If he really cares about you, then he won't mind that you don't want/are not ready to have sex.
What if you got pregnant? Do you want to be 13 with a baby? Even if you use condoms and birth control, you can still get pregnant! That's something you have to think about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): Don't have sex with him. Enjoy being a kid. There is soo much time for sex. It will hurt a lot and not feel good. There are way too many reasons not too. You will regret it I promise. No guy is worth losing your virginity at 12. No guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): i am a practicing gp (family doctor) in england. having sex with any girl under the age of 15 constitutes rape.if he has sex with you he is liable to prosecution for rape. besides, 12 years is way to young. do not even think of it until you are 15 to 16 years old. dont get pressurised into it. believe me you will have much more choice with whom you want to lose your virginity and you will get plenty of oppertunities once you are 16. ignore this fellow for now. wait until you grow up into a beautiful teenager. dont make any hasty decisions and stay off it, as you may repent it later.
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reader, 2confused137 +, writes (2 December 2007):
 I am 12 also.I dated a 16 year old and he has had sex alot and got a girl pregnant but anywho...You are wayyyyyy to young to have sex.Sex changes everything..trust me.Next thing you know you will be preganant and he wont be there. I mean if you love him yes you can have sex,but if he loves you he should be able to wait. Sex isnt everything in a realtionship and it changes a lot. Just tell him you think you should wait and if he isnt willing to wait then dump him becasue obvioulsey he just wants you for sex but if he is willing to wait then he cares.Take it from a girl who has experienced this.hope i helped!
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reader, nahum2102 +, writes (2 December 2007):
 hey, i think you should just wait your too young and you'll have plenty of time for that later, dont let him preassure you into doing anything, theres plenty other things you can do to distract yourselfs, if you do decide to go on with it, buy yousrself some condoms you can get them at gas stations in the restrooms for like .75 cents, dont depend on him having them you have to prevent yourself if anything. good luck =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): DONT DO IT. YOUR 12. If your not ready, dont let him. If he wants to break up with you because you dont want to have sex with him, than he DOESN'T really care about you.
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reader, this_years_love +, writes (2 December 2007):
 tell him flat out no!if you're uncomfortable with something, especially of this nature he needs to know about it!just be honest with yourself and with himremember that even with a condom there is a risk of pregnancy-especially when it may be his first time and he's not quite sure how to use one.be true to yourself and your beliefs and don't throw them away for ANYBODY especially just a boyfriend.i hope and pray you make the right choicemessage me if you want to talkxx
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (2 December 2007):
 Ugh, your boyfriend is a creep.
Don't sleep with him. Seriously, please don't. Sex should be something that happens naturally, you shouldn't PLAN it.
I don't want to say "you're too young" because I know that you won't like it. I know you feel old, and I'm sure you're really mature. However, if you choose to have sex, when you are 16, 17, 18 years old you will really regret it. Sex is something that really is special and should be something between two people that really care for each other.
Be careful, be beautiful, be strong and be smart.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): Honey, uncle phil is right.Im being serious, I know you think you'll lose him if you don't but trust me you'll regret it.Even though you may think that you're ready, trust me on this one. You're probably neither ready emotionally or physically, Im not just preaching, I've been in the same situation as you, when i was a little older, and its one thing Ive regreted throughout my life.Please listen to our advice and DONT do it.I know it may seem old fashioned to wait until you are older, and in love, but please please do. You'll thank yourself in later lifexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): At 12 years of age you should be keeping your legs firmly shut, and you should put an aspirin between your knees for good measure. Best method of birth control there is.
You're too young, end of story.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): hey, you're still really young and having sex with a guy 3 years older than you doesn't really seem like a good idea!Your body probably won't be ready and you need to tell him if you feel uncomortable with what he wants to do. Maybe talk to an adult you can trust or an older friend? I'm sure they'll say the same. He might not be but just so you know he might jus be using you for sex. Older guys think its easier to get younger girls into bed!!Anyway chick take care and hope i helped.x.x.x
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reader, lonely1  +, writes (1 December 2007):
darling, u're 12 and you hav no buisness even considering sex. the fact that ure seeking advice means that ure not sure that u want to. please listen to your conscience and wait until ure ready. if your bf really cares abt. u, he'd understand. even using a condom is not a safe bet against std or pregnancy. i bet u're not ready to have a baby. think about that!
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reader, vodka-tearz  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 Sweetness...I'm guessing you can't tell him straight, but you really must not sleep with him. Age 14 is way to young to lose your virginity, age 12 is just ridiculous. Clearly you aren't ready either, and I understand that, perhaps you should think about going out with someone your own age who doesn't expect you to do such things with him.
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