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writes: hi i'm a mom, i have a question if a girl 3 year old she is masturbation herself is normal? if it is what can i do for that, to me is not normal cos she just too baby please somebody help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): I let mine, but not in public, it's normal with kids to musturbate. Don't make him feel bad about it, because when he grows up he will think sex is wrong and shameful.Let him have some fun...My son is 2 and he gets a hard on even at a tree, in the shower with his toys, etc.etc...
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reader, coffy123  +, writes (22 May 2008):
The thing is with kids that age... They've never actually seen THAT with out a ton of diaper on. She's not getting a sexual feeling, so it's not mastrubation. it's something new to her
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reader, coffy123 +, writes (22 May 2008):
The thing is with kids that age... They've never actually seen THAT with out a ton of diaper on. She's not getting a sexual feeling, so it's not mastrubation. it's something new to her
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (20 May 2008):
 My daughter is 11 months and has just discovered her parts. We just laugh, and ignore it. It's not masterbation, as everyone here has sad. My 6 year old son did it too, all the time, we just ask him if he has to go potty when he does it. That way he dosnt feel like he is doing something bad, but should only do it when he is holding pee. Maybe your daughter is ready for potty training, if she isnt yet, and you can use that as a way to associate it with going potty. Ask her, when you see her doing it if she needs to go.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 If its any consolation, I found my daughter and the next door neighbours daughter, had been trying to sharpen pencil's in there. They really had no idea why they thought you could, and it certainly wasn't a sexual act. My next door neighbour went beserk over it shouting at her child and mine. But I just let it go, and didnt make a big fuss over it. she grew up perfectly normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Yup me too in agreement - its not masturbating, she's just playing innoccently. Its our adult observation of anything like that will be sexual. Like we think nudity (often) is sexual when its not.
Let her do it in private and i'd echo the worry not to tell her its wrong. I can remember being very curious about my body from an early age and poked and prodded round there - then I had my first orgasm at 11 when in the bath, but at that point I knew that it wasn't something i would share with Mum!! hehe. Its great if she's body aware though - so many women are not.
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Absolutely normal. Just let her know that this is something reserved for her "private time."
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Ha. Yes. It's so embarrassing, and totally unexpected when they do it. I had no idea, after having three boys growing up and no problem at that age. I suppose it's one of those things that few of us have any memory of doing ourselves.
And yes, you do have to tell her to stop doing it. I don't think she would have stopped on her own. "Don't do that, darling. It's not nice." It took a while. Then she stopped. At least, she stopped doing it where anyone else could see or hear. Which was all I wanted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): You've been given very good advice from people on this board. Adult sexuality and children's sexuality is very different in certain ways, and in her eyes what she is doing is not sexual activity.
She scratches her nose, it feels good, she dose it again. That's all she's doing with vagina. Try not to make her feel that she's doing anything wrong. She needs to know that her body belongs to her and is her's to explore. (in appropriate situations) If you try to stop her, she will not understand and she will feel that she has done something wrong. It's normal child development, she's just discovered that she has a body that can make her feel good. Don't worry it will pass and she will find something else to play with instead.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (20 May 2008):
 She's not masturbating as we know it. We had this question a couple of months ago, about an aunt who was worried that her baby niece was doing the same.
It's curiosity, that's all it is. My daughter was touching herself down there when she was a baby, as were my nieces it's perfectly normal, trust me.
She's feeling herself because she's discovering different parts of her body, I wouldn't worry too much about it.
You will get more answers the same as mine...it is pure curiosity, nothing more.
Whatever you do, don't berate her for doing it, casually move her hand away when you see her do it if you like. She'll soon stop.
Take care.
BigSis
xXx
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reader, jabey +, writes (20 May 2008):
i think using the word mastubation, is maybe a little stong. I have three daughters and they all have touched their vaginas, and probably it has felt nice, but at this age that is all they know. Masturbation is a sexual act where someone plays with themselves for sexual pleasure. At three your daughter is just discovering her body.
I would ignore her when she does it, if she starts to do it in public, then explain that the behaviour is inappropiate, and it is not the dun thing to do.
From an early age with my daughters I used the word inappropiate, they learnt what it meant early on.
For example when they would talk about bodily functions when eating.
She will probally stop doing it on her own accord anyway, dont make a big thing of it. Its all part of growing xxx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Yes its perfectly normal. Dont shout at her about it and draw huge attention to it. My daughter used to sit in front of our big bay window on the window seat and absentmindedly twiddle away. Try distraction to get her to stop and choose another 'activity', could be a dvd, painting, play dough, read a book with mummy or even a snack. I remember rubbing my self on a table leg at quite a young age as it felt nice (around 5 I think) and my mum gently explained it was better to do it in my room and I used to rub myself on the corner of the bed (blushing now!!) Ive turned out to be perfectly normal with a perfectly normal sex life x
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reader, Deema +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Hi. I don't think she's actually masterbating, she's more likely to just be exploring herself. Why wouldn't she? Its a sexual organ to us, but to her its no different from her arm or her leg - its just there. What a pity we don't carry on thinking that way? If she were mine I'd do nothing. She'll be on to the next interesting thing soon as something better occupies her mind. Dont worry. she's 'normal' - whatever that is!!!!
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