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writes:me and my bf have been on and of so much in the last year but recently have been on for 2 monts which has been lovely weve spent loads of time together and had a reali laugh but i randomyl got a text last week saynig we need to talk we both want different things. admitedly we hadnt seen each other for a few weeks so i dont know whats going on. we always talk about stuffwe r very open with each other so i jus replied yeah sure when did u wanna talk? he hasnt made any effort to see me this week since the text or meet up and talk its eems liek he cant even be boethered to end it with me properly. i dont know here i stand i deserve to kno dont i??i think i love him but im scared to tell him incase he pushes me away hes a lovely guy he jus neva seems to kno what he wants all i kno is that i want to be with him!!help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): Glad we could be here and I'm glad that you got to talk to him.
I hope everything turns out ok for you.
Lots of Love,
Emivia.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell we met up and it was a bit odd to start off with we went for a walk along the beach but after a while we were back to our normal selves being silly laughing jus having a nice time . i drove him home and it was quite late and then he decided he wanted to talk by this time i was not in the mood i had to be up early the next day and i told him he had left it too late and we needed to speak another day.so 2 days ago i saw hime again this time everything was ok we walked and then we chatteed. not about everythin but most things. he said he did want me i mean so much to him we click when were together we laugh hav fun andwe totally understadn each other so i asked y we cant b together and he said i duno we jus cant it has never worked properly before it wont this time. i then asked y it haasnt worked before adn he said he didnt realli kno. well he upset me a bit and he obviousyl realised this as he asked to see me last nite.last nite we watched a film and ended up jus led together chattin abotu silly stuff he held me sp tight and wamr kissed me adn told me im reali special to him.dont get me wrong it was lovely but i still dotn kno where i stand!!!!!sorry for the spellings and if it doesnt make much sense!thanku for all the advice its realliappreciated i dunno who else to talk too!!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Let us know how it goes.
Don't let him treat you like this anymore because you deserve better.
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reader, jezman +, writes (21 May 2008):
 brilliant! thats good news. its good that he's arranged to see u.
let us know how that turns out :D
yeah again with my friends its the same situation, they just keep on getting drawn back to each other. as long as you still have feelings for each other it will be harder to stay friends. i think this because once one of you goes off into another relationship, the other one will most probably get upset and so it will be hard to stay friends :S
i think the only way to solve this is to stay together until you are certain that the love has gone
or go to a hypnotherapist because this is a hard nut to crack :P
again let us know how that arrangement goes it will probably decide where the situation will lead.
best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers!!
we have been on and off because we seem to get into a relationship were both happy things settle down and then hes bored of it he cant seem to deal with things jus going along happily so he says lets jus be mates but it never works we always end up drawn back to each other spending time together and havig a real laugh. he actually admitted this time too that mayb we r jus meant to b together but now its all happened again.
i feel like such a fool none of my friends will talk to me about him cos they think im just wasting my time i dont think they understandhow i feel about him. it means i hav no1 to talk to about it though cos i talk to him about everything else.
thnaku for your help hes said he wil see me tonight!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Of coarse you deserve to know where you stand. He is treating you very badly and is being really immature.
Ring him and tell him that you really need to explain to you what is going on in his mind as it is very unfair on you. If he doesn't pick up then you could consider going to his house and asking him there.
It seems like you deserve better than him, but goodness knows what is going on in his mind.
Good Luck.
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reader, jezman +, writes (20 May 2008):
the chances are there is definately something on his mind. it may seem like hes not bothered but you must understand that he may be having phase of some sort.
what im trying to say is that its not that you've done something to upset him, he has probably come to some kind of relisation in which he is not yet confident to tell you, maybe because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
im sure that when he is ready to talk to you he will. if it seems like he is purposefully ignoring you then you may have to talk to him.
you say that you two have been on and off for a whole year. maybe this routine has been simply delayed for 2 months.
may i ask the reason you two have been on and off for the last two years? maybe it has some kind of relevance.
i say this because i have two friends in a similiar situation, they were also on and off until they realised they just need to end it. they are still great friends though.
give us more information so we can help you more :)
best of luck
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