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writes:i masturbate not that often but yesterday...i just broke up with my boyfren whom i thought i will have sex with. i did it with my deodorant bottle. it hurts me but at the same time it gave me pleasure. it last for 20 minutes i guess and i stop and then i did it again. thats when i realise theres blood. and i had to wear pad. did i just lost my virginity? and will it do any damage to my vagina? will it strech my vagina if i stop doing it? can guys tell the different if im a virgin or not? please help!
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reader, utashe  +, writes (12 September 2008):
okay i exactly know what u feel i did the same thing exept not with a deodorent bottle.i never had sex before and when i masturbated and saw blood first i thought i got my period but i reolized my period just ended so i got scared. i thought something was wrong and that i would have to go to the doctor and my mom would find out i masturbated.now that i read that if blood comes out when u masturbat that means you just broke your hymen . Im so much happyer.i also though i lost my verginity and i wanted to save it for someone i really loved.but i read that i didnt lose that ither.YAY
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reader, chocolatecake999  +, writes (20 May 2008):
Hi, NO you did not lose it!!! so do not worry. You only lose it when another person penatrates you which did not happen to you. Please dont be so rough with yourself, enjoy it and try proper sex toys insted!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): You probably lost your hymen. not your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): No. You definatley did NOT just loose you virginity. A virgin is someone who has not had penetration with another person. Seeing as there was not another person involved, then you didn't just loose your virginity.
You could have broken you hymen but it happens to a lot of women before they have sex or masterbate by playing sports, this is especially common with horse riding.
Seeing as you have not been penetrated before you probably tore yourself. This is what causes bleeding the first time you have sex with someone. Because your vaginal entrance's skin is tight it rips a little the first time you recieve penetration.
Guys can't tell the difference really. They would only know of you told them... or if you didn't tell them and then you began to bleed.
Don't be ashamed, but you really shouldn't use a deodorant bottle incase it damages you.
There are plenty of sextoys that you can buy, just use lots of loob, this will make it easier and it wont hurt as much, if not at all. If you are too shy to buy toys them use a shower head and your fingers.
Be more careful with yourself in the future and don't worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): you don't lose your virginity just because your hymen has been broken. Some people break their hymen riding a horse or a bike, even using a tampon. Don't worry about having lost your virginity. I consider losing your virginity when you first have sexual intercourse with a guy. Another issue here is that you were too rough on yourself. You shouldn't be that harsh. Don't punish yourself.
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reader, Deema +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Well first thing is - stop worrying - you really did nothing wrong, other than punish yourself a little it seems to me. It almost feels as though you wanted to hurt yourself. Don't do that to yourself. You don't deserve to hurt yourself in that way whatever you think you did or didn't do. So you masturbated. Thats not wrong. You may well have broken your hymen - the piece of skin that acts as your virginity - but you may well have just scratched yourself with the deodorant bottle. And so what if you lost your virginity? Show me how many guys out there are? so why should they expect girls to be different? Its not their business anyway. As to whether you can hurt yourself physically - I just don't think its the kindest way to have sex. There's plenty of sex toys you can buy if you need one, that won't damage you. Just be gentle with yourself. There's plenty of time. But most of all - don't take it out on yourself just because your boyfriend decided to split. Bet he's not punishing himself. Lots of luv hun. Be gentle. x
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