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writes:I once heard that once a man has rejected by a woman he will never pursue or respect her again. I am very curious to know how bad does rejection hurt the male ego. Is it really that hard for a male to get over the rejection and just be friends with the woman who did it, or will he just hold a grudge over her. Reply to this Question
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reader, TintedMirror +, writes (3 January 2010):
TintedMirror is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for all of your input! I rejected a guy I had just met becuase he came on way too strong and I was in a bad mood. Months later we seemed to hit it off but a part of him was REALLY distant.
We are kind of friends now but he has these moments where he comes on too strong, then I shoot him down a little. Then we go back to casual friends. But then I come on to him, and he just flat out doesn't get it. I just want to smack him in the face with a "hello, i'm into you, just start being more respectful when you come at me". This whole thing is confussing.
Anyway I talked to different male friend of mine and he told me to forget it, guys never respect girls who reject them, and then try to pursue him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): It really depends on his level of self esteem. High self esteem guys don't care much about rejection. Their self worth doesn't depend on anyone outside of themselves. Rejection could even be a test of self esteem. How do they take it?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (2 January 2010):
 Depends on the man and his level of stability/insecurty and so forth. One answer does not fit all men.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 January 2010):
It can be hard. It depends how close you are to that person. I was close to about half the girls I asked out, and the other half I wasn't. Clearly I was more hurt by the ones I was closer too, because I had thought I knew them better than I did. But to be honest, I've moved on from them all, and I don't really bear a grudge towards any of them now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): It depends..
some men well see it as an available option as simple as that but some well get realy hurt
usualy it hurts more if the guy is younger or if he realy likes you and have feelings for you
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (2 January 2010):
 I think every guy is different, I just accept rejection, as I never count on someone not rejecting me, but when it's like my ex, no I will never respect or be friends with her, you don't make someone believe your in love with them then reject them, now I hate her guts, but just some chick at a bar or something, I dont believe you go into it expecting not to be rejected, at least I dont!
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reader, weparley +, writes (2 January 2010):
Dude you have to be kidding me -right-?
Who cares if you get rejected, "It's going to happen in your life sometimes weather if you like it or not.
It doesn't hurt the male ego at all. Unless your a lil bitc* and been raised like a puss all your life then yes it will damage your ego.
Tell you what,
"Go on Youtube and look it up, It's pretty cool videoS of females/males schooling people about how to approach/speak/flirt/body laugage....etc etc on there
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reader, xnickx +, writes (2 January 2010):
 Honestly, it depends on the man.
If the man is about pride and you damage his pride and ego, there is a chance he will never pursue or respect her.
If the man is more easy going, and lets things slide, then maybe he will.
not all guys are alike.
Your question also seems like what youre asking why wont a guy still be friends with a woman after she rejects him. Idk if it is, but incase it is im goign to answer it anyways.
THere is a large chance if he was rejected by her, he still has feelings for her, and he does not want those feelings to develope any further, and would rather move on.
I know from personal experience 3 types of female friends:
1)those that i have no desire to be romantically involved with
2)those that i keep around because i think i may want to be romantically involved with
3)those that i was romantically involved with, and now i have no interest in at all
Idk.. maybe this didnt even help you but i hope it did a little.
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