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writes:when is the average age to lose your virginity becuase most people these days are losing it younger and put you in a position where you think of how far you went with a boy. How old was you when you lost your virginity? Is virginity important? i am a bit confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, Whoknow781  +, writes (4 December 2012):
I would say that I am/was more mature than a lot of people my age at that time. Reason being is that I live with my grandma and I take care of her (She is 73) and also my uncle who is a quadriplegic meaning he is paralyzed from neck down. He is 50 years old. You could say I worked at an old peoples home since the age of 6. I know what young love can result in negativity but not positivity. I have grown and realized that my body is sacred. That I will not give myself to any boy who's hormones are raging
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): Im a guy and about to be 22. I am a virgin and i think it is because I consider as special anything I do for the first time and I know I am not ugly but for some reason I just havent found a girl that I think is my special one. It doesnt have to be my future wife but just a girl that shows me confidence and love... I would like to do it with a virgin too but even thou I know they still exist on this age its like if virgin girls were just a myth... that really dissapoints me... nice girls are always with bastards and I hate that... I am vey romantic and sometimes cheesy I admit it but maybe girls just want a gangster idiot full of tatoos that does drugs because that is what I have seen.... it is sad...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): I'm 27 years old, and I lost my virginity exactly on the day before my 22nd birthday. DO I regret it? Not entirely. I did have sex with the wrong person, but I did learn the hard way what is valuable when it comes to sex.What I learned was that the value of virginity is an illusion. You don't gain or lose anything by abstaining from sex. Physically and mentally you remain the same, and if you abstain for too long you run the risk of committing evolutionary suicide by failing to do the only thing that will enable you to pass on your genes (by too long I mean past your 39th birthday, when it becones harder for a girl to become pregnant).The illusion of a girl having a high value because of virginity comes from men. A girl's virginity is valuable to the male population because they associate this trait with a high degree of fidelity and high moral character. It also means that they don't have to compete with the past lovers that a girl might have had, thereby reducing the chances of abandonment by the girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): i am 19 years of age-i do not think virginity is something that is sacred or special, nor do i believe that it is important enough to wait until marriage to lose. but it is not so important to be in such a hurry to lose your virginity either. that being said i do believe is that sex is something that should be done when you are entirely physically and emotionally ready. it should be done with someone you trust, and in a comfortable setting. YOU will choose to have sex whenever that time comes, and you should not feel like you have to live up to any type of standards. just a few of my thoughts...
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reader, secretly-innocent +, writes (11 March 2011):
I am 19 and I am a virgin. I have had several opportunities to have sex but has continuously said no because of my principles. I want to be able to talk about sex with a guy I love and trust. I do go through phases when I just want to get it over with but my friends are proud of the fact that I have kept my "V card" in tact which makes me think that actually I am making the right decision to stay a virgin until I am ready. My advice to anyone who feels like their time is running out is you have the rest of your life for sex! There is no need to rush into things now and live to regret it later as several people have admitted to!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): i can say that im not a virgin any more i loose my virginity with the guy i really like, we always do sex how many times with the thoughts of he also love me the way that i do, then we broke up its really hard for me to look for the another guy im afraid that we will not love me because im not a virgin any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): Yeah, virginity is really important. As many people say,"you never know what you have, until u loose it", im 18 but I lost my virginity when I was just 10. Today I hate myself for doing it because everybody treats me like a whore afters tellung my secret to my ex "best-friend" xuz she went telling I wish I had waited but I was just so stupid and besides, I was an orphan so I pretty much didnt care about myself. Everybody looks at me with anger and I just.want to die. So girls, think about who u want to loose ur virginity to cuz it only happens one time and u'll never get it back remember to always use protection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): im 18, and yes virginity is important, because virginity is a gift to your partner after your marriage, this is the most special gift you could give.
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reader, fflorence  +, writes (25 November 2010):
iam 26th year, i belive in virginity so much . my advice for youth at my age is to keep it till you find the right person so that you dont end up blaming yourself.virginity is a pride to me till i am with my husband not foranybody that comes my way.
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reader, benc57 +, writes (14 July 2010):
im 16 and i dont regret not ever having sex. and chances are i wont have it until i find the right girl. im not fat or ugly either and have had plenty of chances but i just never felt real love with any of them so why would i waist something so special with someone i dont even love? i hate how so many people on here say that guys always have a alternitive motive to get you in bed and thats not the case...atleast not with all guys. i know a lot of guys are like that but its not fair to say every guy is like that. im not and i know people that arent like that either.i dont really want to loose it to someone that isnt a virgen like me, is that wrong? i mean if i bother waiting for her shouldnt she do the same?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): This question has been asked again.. Follow this link for further information on when people first started having sex...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/virginity-poll--how-old-were-you-when.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): I'm a virgin and I'm 15... I had lots of oppotunities to lose it but I always say no beacuse I want it to be a special. Someone I care about and someone who cares about me too. Most people nowadays lose it between 14 to 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Ok im 15 im still a virgin , this one guy want to have sex with me but i think i will regret it if i have sex with him cuz im not going out with him or anything; i think thats a bad idea btw we almost did it before but i tell him to stop because im scared and i might jst regret it at last. I think the best time to have sex is when you find the right person in your life atleast the guy will love you or something...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): Okay I'm 18 & trust me its been hard finding the "right" one 2 have sex with. I mean guys these days have secret motives & only wanna use you for sex. I say juss wait untill u find the guy that makes you feel amazing inside & out & wen the time is right then do it don't rush. I'm still a virgin I haven't found "him" yet but I kno he's out there so I'm good no rushin or worrin becuse I kno wen its ment 2b..itll happen3
xxMariieRaymond
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reader, Kenneth_C +, writes (17 July 2008):
Yes virginity is important -- like good health, life. 'nuf said (or written). -- K.R.C.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): I was 15. I don't regret it but 15 does seem young. I don't think it's important whether or not you are a virgin but some shallow people like to pretend it is which pressures younger people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): The average age of loosing Virginity is 16 in the UK but almost a quater of women admit to loosing it before they are 16.I was only 14 and I wish I had waited until i was older. (it wasnt even that good.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): It's up to you when you choose to lose your virginity. Don't feel forced to have sex when you don't want it. You are only 13-15 where sex is illegal. Remember only lose your virginity when you are ready and don't feel presurised into doing it earlier than you wanted to. Also remember when you do decide you want to have sex for the first time remember to be safe and protected.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): im sorry to tell u this but I am 15 yrs old and i just lost my virginity last year and i dont feel bad at all about having sex at a young age(dont have sex at the age of 9-13)wait until u get older, still being a child and having sex is not cool because if a guy pressures u and doesnt want 2 go out with u anymore i would say fuck him who needs him anyway unlike me it was something that just happend and after a while the guy kept coming back for more and every time he wanted me i gave it 2 him but know we dont have sex anymore and i dont like the guy he's full of shit and i go with this other guy i think im falling in love with him because he's handsome and nice and he has the personality 2 go with it and he doesnt talk 2 me just for sex like any other guy would do girls but just wait until you get older maybe like when you get(16 or 17) and one last impotant thing make sure you use PROTECTION LIKE A CONDOM BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT 2 END UP WITH A BABY AT A YOUNG AGE AND YOUR PARENTS KICK YOU OUT OF THE HOUSE AND TELL YOU TO GO STAY WITH THE PERSON YOU LAID UP AND HAD THE BABY WITH BECAUSE YOU CANT GET A JOB IF YOUR NOT 17 OR 18 AND YOU HAVENT GRADUATED BUT JUST STAY SAFE PLEASE AND DONT DO THINGS THAT YOU KNOW YOU ARE GOING TO REGRET
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): im sorry to tell u this but I am 15 yrs old and i just lost my virginity last year and i dont feel bad at all about having sex at a young age(dont have sex at the age of 9-13)wait until u get older, still being a child and having sex is not cool because if a guy pressures u and doesnt want 2 go out with u anymore i would say fuck him who needs him anyway unlike me it was something that just happend and after a while the guy kept coming back for more and every time he wanted me i gave it 2 him but know we dont have sex anymore and i dont like the guy he's full of shit and i go with this other guy i think im falling in love with him because he's handsome and nice and he has the personality 2 go with it and he doesnt talk 2 me just for sex like any other guy would do girls but just wait until you get older maybe like when you get(16 or 17) and one last impotant thing make sure you use PROTECTION LIKE A CONDOM BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT 2 END UP WITH A BABY AT A YOUNG AGE AND YOUR PARENTS KICK YOU OUT OF THE HOUSE AND TELL YOU TO GO STAY WITH THE PERSON YOU LAID UP AND HAD THE BABY WITH BECAUSE YOU CANT GET A JOB IF YOUR NOT 17 OR 18 AND YOU HAVENT GRADUATED BUT JUST STAY SAFE PLEASE AND DONT DO THINGS THAT YOU KNOW YOU ARE GOING TO REGRET
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
I was 19 when I lost my virginity. When I was 14 I had SWORE to myself that I would lose my virginity by the age of 16. 16 rolled around, and all though I had had my opportunities, I just couldn't talk myself into doing it. In fact, all though I had kissed a plethora of guys, I really hadn't gone much further than 2nd base (all though all my friends thought I had).
I decided to concentrate on school and theater and having fun with my girls, and making out with guys until the right guy came around. And eventually he did. I had to move across the country to find him, but he just showed up in my life and I knew. It felt right. I wasn't nervous, things just happened and eventually I ended up losing my virginity to him.
You know, health class and my Mom had always said that sex was this "emotional and magical" thing... I always thought that was just old lady talk. That is, until I actually did it. It was really special (for me), and I'm not going to lie. I totally cried when it was done. (That's really embaressing to add in, but you asked.)
I'm still with that guy now, and I'm still very happy with him. He makes me feel special and beautiful and comfortable every day we're together. I was so glad that I had waited, and hey - in high school I had a BLAST hanging out with my friends, making out with boys and not having to think about sex. I was too busy having fun and working hard.
Alright girl.
I hope your first time is as special as mine and all the others who posted on here.
xxIndia
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reader, Wisha +, writes (6 February 2007):
 There is no 'right age' to lose you virginity. However long it takes you to feel ready is the right time. I was 16 but wished i had waited until i was 17 when i met my bfriend who i am with now. But you cant turn back time...remember that! Dont rush...then you wont regret!!! xxxxx
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reader, Wisha +, writes (6 February 2007):
There is no 'right age' to lose you virginity. However long it takes you to feel ready is the right time. I was 16 but wished i had waited until i was 17 when i met my boyfriend who I am with now. But you cant turn back time...remember that! Dont rush...then you wont regret!!! xxxxx
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 At the time I lost it I had just turned 19. I had low self esteem and a guy who had been my friend for 3 years was my first lover. I use the term lover here because even before the first time we kissed (my first kiss btw) I knew we could have no relationship as he was in love with someone else and I didn't love him.
For me it was a matter of being curious and wanting to try things out. It had no emotional relevance. He didn't particularly seem to care about me being a virgin either as he had had a lot of sexual relationships before, for him it was just a bit of sex.
Half a year later I met someone I really loved and when we made love it was totally different from what I had previously experienced. So to me, the first time I made love (as opposed to just having sex), was more important to me than the time I lost my virginity.
I once asked my boyfriend afterwards if it mattered to him that I wasn't a virgin. He told me that it would have been nice, but really it wasn't very important to him at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): of course i valued mine. when i was younger i had always told myself that i would wait until i was married, but i didn't.
i had a good number of boyfriends, but i waited until i was 19 years old. i chose to lose mine because it felt so right with the person that i chose to lose it to. there was no pressure. i just decided on my own that i wanted to do it. it was my own choice.
that night was a very special night. i still remember it 'til this day. the date, details & all. i don't regret it at all.
there is no need to rush. you'll know when you get there :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): I waited for the right guy, and when I was 18, after we had been dating for a few months... I lost it to him..it just *felt* right. Although, he wasnt a virgin, it is worth having someone who cares so much for you. A guy who really loves you would wait until your ready! It was so romantic (although it was a bit painful) I have always thought of it as something special, and we are still together 2 years later!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): Virginity is important for some girls, but for some it isn't. I valued mine because I like to think of everything I do for the first time as the ONLY time it will be my first. I lost my virginity when I was 15, under no pressure. I chose for MYSELF to lose it, and who to lose it to. I waited until I was with my boyfriend for several months before becoming more physically intimate with him. Sure, we fooled around, but I don't consider that losing my virginity. I consider losing virginity as anal or vaginal sex.
And of course, as you and everyone should, we used spermicidal condoms. And we took our time. It's not something you can rush. Trust me, rushing does NOT help the situation. Just makes it more messy and unsafe. Relax, get to know your partner for several, several months (or until you feel COMPLETELY comfortable, and COMPLETELY ready).
Remember, you only get one virginity. Use it well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): I was 19 when I lost my virginity and let me tell you, you never no how important it is till it's gone. you can only give it away to one person and there are so many emotions attatched those few minutes and there is no going back. most of the time you end up wishing you could. think about what your actions could cause and if your truly ready for that. at 21 i wish i could go back and change what i did. if your going to be careful and use protection there is so much you can catch. things you could end up living with for the rest of your life.
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reader, JulietteElise +, writes (6 February 2007):
 i dated my first b/f all four years of high school, and he waited untill after we had graduated to have sex because that is what i wanted (thus, around 18 or 19). We still did oral (and thus both got verrrrry good at it) and kissed, hugged, cuddled, etc. though sex is often important in relationships, it should never be all a relationship is about. If a guy is willing to wait untill you are ready, then hes NOT the type of guy you really want to date. Anyone who truley loves and respects you will be willing to wait however long it is (4 years for my poor guy!), and though a complant might happen here and there, they would never try to manipulate you (i'll leave you if you don't!), try to force you (thus, rape), or cheat on you. As said, we did do oral, but only untill we were both comfertable with the idea, etc. Don't get me wrong... i didn't wait that long to have sex because i was scared or didn't love him, i did it because i'm an extremly horney person and had to see if i could wait, because i knew if i couldn't i wouldn't beable to respect myself ever again, esspically since being in high school i saw so many people who treated relationships so materilisticaly (oh, its our 2 month anerversory! ...and... oh i dated this guy last week, and this other one now.. etc etc... and heard guys seem so crude and disrepectfull only careing about sex), and i knew i never wanted to be like that. If i have a relationship, i want it to be real and meaningfull, and if i have sex, i want it to be with someone i truley love and who i know for sure loves me as well. it's a bit funny though (since everyone thinks guys are the ultra horney ones who can only think with one head at a time) because there were many times when he reminded me of what i had said when i was all horney and ready to go! Of course, we were eachother's firsts (b/f and g/f as well as sexual partners) so i don't know how someone who had been very sexual would feel about suddenly not being sexual, but either way, a person who truley loves you will wait... and in fact... for young girls this is the best way to see if a guy is good or not. I am so happy we waited untill our relationship was already so extremly strong and our love real, as well as mature enough to handle it all, before haveing sex. It was a wonderfull experince because of this, and i actually wasn't in any pain at all. It was loveing and romantic, and though we aren't dateing any longer (its been 4 years or so) we are still good friends and happy we shared and learned our sexuality together.
Overall though, it's my strong belife that people shouldn't have sex untill they are fully ready, and are also prepared to face any and all consequences responisbly, such as stds or pregnancys (weither you use a condom or not!).
and don't worry.... if you ever did want to lose your virginity just so you aren't a virgen (which there is nothing at all wrong about! and in fact is something seen with great respect and deserible in many ethnic groups and religions and societys... and since you live in england, isn't it true the person who dates/marrys the prince/a king has to be a virgen?), since you are a female, it will always be extremly easy to lose it. The pussy controls all! You'd beable to easily find a guy to just have sex with if thats all you wanted.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Some people lose their virginity earlier than others, there is no special age to become sexually active. It all really depends on the individual. The main thing is to be sensible about it. It's against the law for one thing for a girl to sleep with anyone before she's 16 years old so I would definitely not even think about it until you reach this age.
Always make sure and use contraception and make sure your partner wears a condom, don't rely on the withdrawal method or anything else that doesn't keep you safe. Don't give it away too freely either, there's no shame in being in your twenties and still being a virgin, it's a personal thing and something that should only be shared with someone you can trust and really care about.
Eve
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reader, mylove_5757 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 i totally agree with CD (which btw those are my initials)
i am 16
and i just lost mine a month ago-ish
we had wanted to for so long
but it was really worth it to wait
and even now to me 16 seems too young
but i AM in love and with the person i want to be with forever
if you do it too young
you get all overwhelmed and nervous
but if you wait until you're with the right person and with someone you love
itll be as relaxed and unnervewracking as it can be
hope it helpsss
CD2
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): just because a SMALL group of people lose theres early doesnt mean you should, the average age is 17 still in the uk still.
the thing you should remember is many kids your age lie about it to look good, which is stupid as it just helps the circle of pressure on everyone to lose it.
sex isnt a game or just for fun, its a serious thing, your sharing your body and an intimate moment with another person, do it with someone you know you love, who loves you back.. and i mean proper love, whos been with you and supported you and waited till your ready.
sex early caries risks, teenage pregnancy, deseases (if unprotected) and cervical cancer.
be sensible, take pride in yourself, and wait for the right man to come along when your older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): no rush! its nothing special! i was 19
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reader, cd206 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Virginity is important. When I was your age I was desperate to lose it as fast as I can but I'm glad I waited until I was 17 (which is still the average age for people to lose their virginity in the UK) and that I was with someone I loved. Sex has consequences and I'm not sure you can properly understand them until you're older and you know what love means. I rally wouldn't rush your first time. You're so young and there's no rush but if you do decide to go ahead anytime soon make sure you visit your doctor for contraception advice in advance.
CD
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