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writes:I have never felt sexually fulfilled in a relationship and I am ashamed that I cannot be normal. I have a shameful fantasy that I have never told a soul about because it seems too taboo to talk about.I have fantasies about tying my gf's wrist, gagging her and having sex with her while she tries to resist me. When previous partners have asked me what I'm into, I break into a cold sweat and avoid answering them directly. Bondage is freaky enough, but what I want seems to take it too far. I enjoy the sex act, I just don't feel like I can express my sexuality with different sex positions.Is my fantasy sick? If it isn't, then what can I do to introduce it into my relationships? Reply to this Question
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reader, Leah Knowles  +, writes (20 February 2011):
Regardless of what others say, no, it´s not normal. It´s wrong, no matter how common it is. You shouldn´t have fantasies about force sex. But it´s good that you realize that it´s wrong. Probably you are not a potentional predator. Of course, you cannot control what arouses you but it´s good that you realize that it´s not right. You´re not a bad person, since you have sense for morality. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): personally i'd love if my partner did this to me.
Just a small suggestion...maybe have a safeword so if she genuinly does want you to stop you know...have fun and be safe :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm quite surprised at the response. Thanks for the support, you have reassured my nerves... just need to find a way to introduce this into my sex life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): That's not shameful, I'd love that.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (15 February 2011):
Everyone has their kinks. However, some can be dangerous and some can risk taking the beauty out of sex. In this case, a dominant position that you seem to want to take can suggest that you would rather use your partners body to satisfy your needs rather than make it an experience where both people satisfy each other.
While there is nothing wrong with having sexual "preferences," make sure your relationship is still about pleasing one another or else she'll only grow distant from you.
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reader, missy_musk +, writes (15 February 2011):
 Assuming this is JUST a fantasy, then no there is nothing wrong with that! You should make sure your partner is 100% comfortable with the idea before you ever go ahead because there is always a risk of it backfiring and ending in trouble and i dont need to metion what kind of trouble!. Before commencing, make sure you both have some kind of signal and codeword to stop. Other then that, there is not a lot more i can say other then DONT BE SILLY WRAP YOUR WILLIE :) bet that made you smile :) feel free to mail me xx
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reader, Nime +, writes (15 February 2011):
 Don't feel ashamed, it's not sick; it's a very normal and common fantasy. In fact, 'being raped' is one of the top 5 sexual fantasies reported by WOMEN. In a college study, more than 50% of the women asked reported being raped as their top sexual fantasy. It's a very common fantasy; to be raped (women) or be the rapist (men) and when ACTED out safely and with consent on both sides, it's perfectly normal and all in good fun. Ask your girlfriend what she thinks about role play, you might be surprised.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (15 February 2011):
 that's pretty tame, considering what else you could be doing. just make sure you all have a safety word in case she can't breathe or wants to stop
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