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Is it weird to send him sexy pics of me after not having spoken in a long time?

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Question - (22 March 2012) 11 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I was dating a great guy but he moved away and he was really disappointed about the distance as it interferes with us continuing things. And we haven't spoken in 2 months. Last time I spoke to him, when he was already moved and settled, he sent me a cute picture collage of him for Valentine's Day and he said he would call me but he never did. That was the last I've heard from him. I miss him dearly, and he was also a wonderful sex partner and now that time has gone by I'm getting urges! :( I was messing around with my camera last night and I was thinking of sending sexy pictures to surprise him with. He used to love exchanging pictures. They are really hot and I know he'd LOVE them. But it's been so long, I'm not sure if I should send them. Any thoughts?

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (23 March 2012):

Danielepew agony auntYes, it's weird.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (23 March 2012):

Honeypie agony auntI agree 100% with Auntie So_Very_Confused - it REEKS of desperation and it's borderline creepy.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (23 March 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony aunt"just my body in lingerie, nothing that vulgar."

to a man that you have not had any contact with in 2 months

that's desperate and vulgar... personally I think any "sexy" shots done on a cell phone are vulgar.

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A female reader, maverick494 United States +, writes (23 March 2012):

Bad idea, even if it's just your body in lingerie. It screams desperate. Do you really want to present yourself as a hot piece of ass he can come and get when he pleases?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (23 March 2012):

CindyCares agony aunt Bad idea , very unsafe since you don't know the guy terribly well . These pics could crop up all over the net where and when you least expect it.

Plus, it sounds pretty desperate to me. You want to get some reaction out of him, and you think that these pics would reignite the flame and bring him back to you, but, let's face it, he said he'd call and he never did, and that was two months ago. Chances are that if he gets the pics... he'll just stay put cozily at home, masturbating over your sexy images.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012):

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Thanks for your input everyone...and just so you know, I did not intend and never ever sent him completely nude photos, and my face wasn't shown in any of them. They were just my body in lingerie, nothing that vulgar. I'm not that nuts lol. Thanks :)

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (23 March 2012):

person12345 agony auntDo not just randomly send nude photos. There are websites all over for people to post random nude photos, with a link to their fb accounts. In this internet age, it is just an AWFUL idea. Once you press send, those are his property to do with as he pleases. It's one thing if you're married or something, but to someone you haven't talked to in awhile, not a good idea. Why not just stick with "hi I miss you." or something.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012):

Please, get some self respect and some common sense. NEVER pursue a man more than he is pursuing you. Sending a sexy picture just opens you up to being exploited and used for sex. He's not into you. He hasn't called you in two months.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012):

It has been 2 months and you haven't heard from him even though he said he'd call? He is definitely not interested. I think you want to send sexy pictures in order to get a response from him, i.e. to get him to talk to you again. Just what exactly will you accomplish if you send him the pictures? Do you hope he will come visit you and you'll have sex? Or do you hope he'll talk or call to you?

In either case, it's a strange way to get someone's attention again. It's almost bordering on desperation.

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A female reader, shazz1991xoxo United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2012):

shazz1991xoxo agony auntYea I agree with kyle be careful, he might show other people, just make sure you can trust him first xoxo good luck

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A male reader, Kyle007 United States +, writes (23 March 2012):

You better call him and make sure that he doesn't have some snoopy girlfriend now that checks his phone.

Also, sending any digital pictures that are compromising to you especially to someone you are no longer involved with is very very risky.

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