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anonymous
writes:My special lady owns a house, so i sometime on weekends spend in her house, i live with my cousin, now my cousin is all over me saying am doing it wrong, me i dont find it wrong, my girl too does not find it wrong too.Am asking for advise about this matter is it wrong?? NB: We are both over 24yrs.
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (25 July 2007):
I suspect your cousin is maybe a bit lonely and missing your company.However I don't think theres anything wrong and staying over at your girlfriends place is a good basis to see if you could live together in the long term.If this is bothering you alot you could try spending more time in the week with your cousin so they know you still value them
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reader, bailys  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 I would have no problem with what you are doing. Your friend owns her own house and as you are living with your cousin you probually have more privacy at her place. Also your cousin may be a little jealous about the time that you are spending with her. Also your relationship with your girlfriend should not be any of you cousins buisness. Good luck.
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 You may be an adult but aren't being respectful to you or her by staying at her home. Don't act like a married couple if you are not. There is no need for you to stay there if you have your own place. Don't put yourself into situations that you don't need to be in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): As all the other Aunts stated, where you spend your nights and with whom, is no one's business. You are an adult, your gf is an adult-2 consenting people who enjoy the company of each other. Your cousin may not agree with your lifestyle, but that is his/her opinion and they are entitled to think what they want. But they should not be planting 'doubts' in your mind, about what you are doing. Your relationship is personal and how you condust yourself in it, is not up scrutiny. Next time your cousin states his/her opinion, take a stand and say, calmly:
"Thanks for your thoughts on this. But I do disagree with you because how I choose to live my life, is my own business. This topic of discussion is now closed..let's move away from this"
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 Does your cousin want you to move out? Maybe, your cousin would rather you "do the right thing" and "live together", so that your cousin can live alone.
Also, your cousin couldjust be jealous that you have a relationship, and he/she does not.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (21 July 2007):
There seems to be nothing wrong here.
Go for it and have fun.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (21 July 2007):
 when i read the title i was expecting a younger than 16 spending nights with a 23+. But with this info i dont see any problem at all. Tell your cousin to mind his own business
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reader, flower girl +, writes (21 July 2007):
 You are both adults so do what you like it has nothing to do with anyone else and it most certainly does not sound as though you are doing anything wrong at all.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 With the information you give, I wonder why it could be wrong. Maybe your cousin disapproves of this? But, why is it any of his business?
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