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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:So I'm dating two men. One for six weeks and one for 3 weeks. I've seen both about 5 times. At what point do I stop dating one or the other? When a conversation arises? I like both and I want a boyfriend that will lead to marriage. Neither has mentioned monogamy yet. I've had sex with the 6 week one - not the 3 week one. I'm really bad at dating etiquette. I want to be with someone that wants to marry me but when is an appropriate time to bring it up? How do I find out wihout appearing like I'm desperate to be married. I'm 34. It's been 4 months since my last boyfriend. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (28 November 2011):
 You need to find out more about these men, what are their goals at the moment, what they are looking for in a woman, views on marriage, children..ask a few of the big questions, but don't bombard them. Just lightly touch on the subject and go with whichever has the best answers.
I usually have sex just once before I agree to monogamy, just because of the sexual compatibility. If you have sex anymore than that then it becomes a sexual arrangement. Then they'll hold off on monogamy or avoid the subject all together.
At the moment, I would date them a bit longer before narrowing it down.
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