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writes:My boyfriend and I recently broke up. He said he needed to take care of some things and I should keep in mind that he has to do what he has to do. Don't really know what that means cos' if he was to break up, he should have said so and that he really misses me. I replied wishing him the best in all.The problem now is that I'm trying so hard to get over him and move on but some of my things are still in his house as we lived together for a few months. I don't want to see him now or so soon again. I texted him though that is he ok with some of my things being at his place for the time being and I'm yet to see his reply. What do I do?
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reader, Katie-cola  +, writes (27 May 2008):
If i was you, i would listen to him. You should know that you can have limits now and that your in control and he isnt. Just listen to what he has to say, then you have your say. Dont let his feelings get to you and try and make that as closure for you. If you dont listen to him, you may always wonder what he wanted to say.
Just make sure you stay strong to what you are thinking and dont let him manipulate you with his feelings. You know that your going to move on and have told him. Dont let him try and change your mind. Good luck with what ever you decide. xxx
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (26 May 2008):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI texted him how hurt I was but time would heal and he called me back twice but I didn't pick up. He then texted me that he is doing the right thing and needs to talk to me, that I should call him when I have time. But I haven't called and plan not. What should I do? Am I doing the right thing? Would appreciate your help.
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reader, Katie-cola +, writes (26 May 2008):
I would try to move on. Your ex is obviously confused about what he wants and doesnt want to let you go in case no one else is there for him.
In regards to your things at his, i would advise you to pick them up or get someone else to do it. The longer they are there, the harder they will be to pick up. If you end up seeing each other then you could want to get back with him and if he didnt feel the same way, the pain would go on.
I know its sad breaking up with an ex, especially after living with them, but if you allow him to have you in his mind when he wants you, you will never be able to move on. Have a girly night in and try to forget about men for sometime and soon enough, it will be you moving on looking at the past, thinking what a lucky escape!!
Good Luck xxx
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (26 May 2008):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has replied me that it's ok. I am really hurt and sad but I didnt let him know. I just told him I wish him the best. He didnt tell me though break up but I should "keep in mind that he has to take care of some other things and he really misses me" Do I move on or what should I do? I am so sad. Please need your help.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (26 May 2008):
 Call and if he doesn't answer show up at his house when you see he is home. He cannot ignore you, it is your stuff and you have a right to get it back. Bring a friend preferrably. Get your things and go. Good luck.
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reader, :):):) +, writes (26 May 2008):
The sooner you collect your stuff, the sooner you can move on. Try texting him again, if he dosent reply, call at his house, preferably with a friend. xxx
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