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writes:Recently i've been having a few problems with my parents. They constantly interfere and comment on everything i do. i can't read a book or watch television without some remark. whenever i go out, my mother wants to know exactly where i'm going and what time i'll be back. i wouldn't mind but i'm 23.My father is less worried about my social life and more concerned with my career. he's always going on about my job and whether i should consider a career change. at the moment i'm working for an aid organisation and my salary is petty low - in fact, i'm broke most of the time - but that's my problem. i just want to make a difference and he can't seem to understand that!I've tried talking to my parents, but we just don't speak the samr\e language, i can't afford a place of my owm, but i can't carry on living at home - it's suffocating!what should i do?Holly
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reader, sunshine99 +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Hi I do sympathise with you. I am 25 and married and moved out 3 years ago - no disrepect to my parents - but the best thing I ever did!! I was 22 and my parents were the same. Wanted to know where I was going, what time I'd be back, who I was going out with!!! the list is endless!! I can understand how frustrating this is for you. You have your own life now and they should not interfere. It know they are only looking out for you and worry about you - and always will. Please talk to your parents about how you feel. Try and get another job on the side to bump the money up to get a place, this won't be easy but it'l be worth it in the end. Have you a good friend who you could flat share with? All the best.
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reader, home_land  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 hello
i think your parents love you and care abot you so much
and the still see you as a 6 years old and parents like to see kids grewing up and when kids they dont grew up its not the parents problem so you have to watsh out what you are doing dont run away from them and in your age is time to grew up and they wont treat you like child and be sure they want to see that when they see it they will stop the remarks
good luck
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Could you look for a flatshare? It's possible to get some pretty cheap ones on the internet? Or if home is getting you down that much maybe it'd be an idea to take a night job in a bar or a weekend job in a shop to up your income. Tiring, yes but it'd be nice to be able to go home to your own place at the end of the day!
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Dear Holly, I am going through the same thing, with my future husband in mays parents his mom is constly on are back about everything when we go out she wants to know where we are going when we will be back and calls 10 times while we are out and my future husband is 25 and it gets aggervating, but she says she does it cause she wants to make sure we are safe, well dont do nothing you dont want to do, try saving up money and put it in the bank and dont touch it and if you cant afford to do that get a second job intil you can afford to get out then see how you make out it maybe tough but atleast you will be out on your owne and wont have to worrie about your parents being on you all the time about thing, i hope i helped
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reader, Dos_Vinci +, writes (26 March 2007):
 You're just going to have to hold your breath. As long as you live under their roof, You have to abide by their rules. Just the way it is, no matter what age. You should listen to your dad. You can't help people, if you can't even help yourself. You're mom and dad have probably been giving you good advice your entire life but you've been too concerned about where it came from over what it suggested. My advice is love your parents. Listen to them. They're the only ones in the entire world that hasn't had a single thought of ever hurting you. They won't always be here. Look at them.. See how much they've changed since your days of childhood? Go give them both a big hug and let them know you appreciate their love and care.sincerely your's Child without a mother
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