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writes: He wants me to convert to Judaism and renounce Christ in order to marry me!!!! I am already Jewish but I believe in the son of G-d. I'm what you call a Jews for Jesus. He says he loves me and that I have to renounce my beliefs in order to get married. I love him dearly, I don't want to lose him but do I really want to go to hell??? I broke up with him on Thanksgiving Day because of this but he still calls me every day to tell me how much he misses me. Everything reminds me of him and I can't stop crying. What do I do???
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 You did the right thing by breaking up with him!! If he loved you as he proclaimed, he should have loved you for you!! Keep on being a Jew for Jesus!! You won't regret it one bit!! My prayers are with you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): If he doesn't accept you for who you are, don't buy a one way ticket to hell to make him happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): I am also a Jew who believes in Jesus. I also happen to be with Jews for Jesus. Before I became a believer my believing (gentile) wife married me - against her better judgment. This situation isn't the same as yours, but when I became a believer in Y'shua, I realized something very important.
As a believer in Y'shua - I can not serve (like my wife couldn't) the Lord fully with all my heart unless I have a partner who shares in that love of Him. Sometimes this takes sacrifice, and yes that sacrifice can hurt, but in the end it will bring blessing. You just need to see example after example in God's Word to know that doing things his way brings the greatest blessing in the long run.
My advice to you, (and I am no expert on the affairs of the heart so take that into consideration), is that you pray for this man's salvation, and share your faith with him to the extent he will allow you to. I would not, however, marry him (or even deeply get involved with him) until he can share a life with you that includes Y'shua as Messiah.
You might in time find someone who can share a life with you that includes Jesus. Trite as I know this might sound to you right now, time does heal all wounds.
I pray that you will feel the presence of the Lord in a special way at this time, and that he will guide you by His Spirit and by His Word. I also pray that he will give you His shalom (peace).
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reader, pica +, writes (2 December 2006):
Sorry to read about what you are going through. Excellent advice below. I just wanted to say good for you, you stuck up for yourself and your beliefs. Have courage, be strong, move on. Good luck.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (2 December 2006):
 To be honest, I think you did the right thing breaking up with him. People who love you are supposed to accept you for what you are, and he clearly wasnt willing to compromise. If you had have renounced your religious beliefs for him, it probably would have lead to resentment somewhere down the line, if not right away. If he is so into being the same religion, why can't he renounce his?
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (1 December 2006):
 Hi sweetie, I hope he comes around but expecting you to change something that is so close to you in return for his love, is no love at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): It's obvious your religious differences are barriers in this relationship. And neither one of you is willing to compromise. Perhaps in most cases, love can conquer all, but you have to think rationally and look ahead. Marriage and family is something you both will want. But with two religions conflicting, raising kids is a different issue altogether. Deciding what faith (if any) to raise your children in could be a nightmare for both of you, the families and especially the children. Think of it that way.
But I do have to comment on your relationship. When you both are judging each other on religious belief, then you both are determining that something is wrong with each other, as a result. Not a solid base to continue a healthy, loving relationship on, don't you think? When there is a true love, one can work it out with a beloved, whether we're talking about religion or anything else. My suggestion? Leave it as is. Do the work of getting over him and eventually find someone else that will satisfy your religious needs in a partner. I also suggest you seek spiritual counseling from someone (rabbi) in your place of worship. They may help you make the right decison for your future and clarify your your painful dilemma. I wish you the best, dear and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006):
Its kind of obvious that you dont give up your religion because someone asks you to.
It could be an education thing. Some Jews are phobic of Jews for Jesus. The fact that you have a shared culture and a mostly shared religion should weigh on him.
When in doubt, meet with his Rabbi... those guys are fun and look at things from every angle.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (1 December 2006):
 Religion is very sensitive subject for many.
He is expecting you to give up your beliefs for him, but he would not do this for you?
What does this tell you?
If both of you love each other the same and miss each other, is there a way to compromise?
Only you can know the answer if the all the above is worth it.
All I know that love should bring you joy not tears.
xxx
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