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writes: Hi,I recently found my boyfriend with alot of porn dvd's. He travels for long periods of time and we have before talked about his hotel movie watching. However I think he's now addicted. When we make love he's not able to climax--needs to rest. Always makes sure I have though. I don't find him that into me anymore. I have talked to him about it and he says this is normal--all guys do this. When he's home from travel he is now watching them in our home. I need help in understanding this. I don't feel I can stay in a relationship like this. I have suggested counseling and he's not interested. Please help!!!Disgusted Girlfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2006): Reply to last answer...
Porn Filters may help certain people, the problem comes in when you're a technician and know all the in's and out's of the software used, how to block those sites and get around the blocking as well.
Thats where i am at the moment...i just need the willpower to stay the hell away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): How to avoid porn addiction on the Internet
1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog Porn Filter,you can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.
2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov
3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.
4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.
5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you need.
6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.
Stick with reputable sites.
If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.
Internet Porn Filter Resource:
http://www.netdogsoft.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): I'm also addicted to porn, it is a mental and spiritual issue that stems from the first time you look at it and or jerk off to it. once you have seen that kind of stuff it sticks in your head and the women you see in those movies become your fetish for the lack of a better word. everytime a man is in a position that he is bored and alone and has access, or in your case at home with you, but not interested in you. he will do it because to him that is his sexual craving. i have tried so many times to find a solution for this, the only thing i can think of that will work is a drastic mental transplant. Basically i need to find something that gives me what i crave, but not something so depraved and degrading. I Have thought that my wife could try to make more of an effort to be seductive and sexy to get the thrill going again, but it lasted a short while and i was looking for the first porn site i could find. It has progressed now so much that porn pictures and magazines no longer make me excited, i have to watch a movie, where i can see women in action not just on a page. I need help and your man does to, and he knows it. the issue is that 90% of men do look at porn, and that is a reality, the problem is that they all think it is ok, because all the others are doing it. meantime deep down in their conciousness they know it is morally wrong and is effecting them. i have lied to my wife saying i don't do it any more but every now and then i still go looking for it on the net. it is not that she is not good enough, its rather that i have an addiction that i need to get rid of, but also satisfy the craving. it is much the same as trying to quit smoking. some people can go cold turkey and win, others can't and need to be weaned off of it.
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reader, funkyfeline +, writes (1 December 2006):
wether he is addicted or not, he is obviously sacrificing real sex in your relationship for porn, and this is damaging. i dont know what to suggest to do if you have already spoken to him and he is not interested in fixing this.
im sorry about your problem, good luck and keep us updated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006):
There is an actual clinical definition of "addiction" and it doesnt mean "has a lot of".
Why dont you google addiction, run some of the dianostic questionaires past your bf and see if they ring a bell to him.
He doesnt have to be responsive the first conversation you have on this.
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