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writes:I recently met a guy at the bar that I started dating. The thing is he's 20 and I'm 24... He says it doesn't bother him at all, is this normal? We get along great but it makes me wonder what his motives are... Any insight from you guys out there? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 September 2011):
 I think he'd be too immature for you. But see for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): I am 27years and my wife is 31 years. Been married for 3years with 2 wonderful kids. We met 9years ago! Life couldn't be any better. Sit back and enjoy and look at him as your love, PERIOD! Love conquers all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): dont worry about it!
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reader, Blonde_J  +, writes (20 September 2011):
Yes of course it can! Its only 4 years. Just have fun and see how it goes. ;)
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (20 September 2011):
Im dating someone 4 years younger than me, and im younger than you so....
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (20 September 2011):
Hun, it's just by four years. Don't sweat it. Of course it can work. Yours is a puny drop in the bucket compared to those who are dating or married, and there's a 20+ or 30+ age difference (and they're very much happy btw).
Age is but a number. Blabbidy blabbidy blah. You've heard the clique. Love isn't age, color, religion, etc.
If you really like this younger fellow, then GO FOR IT!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 September 2011):
 sure can work... age is a number (after a certain point of course)
I will tell you that when I was 24 my boyfriend was 11; of course I didn't know him then...
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reader, olderthandirt +, writes (20 September 2011):
 Age is a way to measure the passage of time but maturity is NEVER automatically attached to the age number. Guys are usually five years or so behind in the maturity scale as gals(sorry to my fellow guys-just doing the truth thing). You do the math.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): Yes! It can work! My aunt is 10 years older than her husband, (although you would have no idea if they didn't tell you...) They will be married 38 years next year! You would be surprised to meet them and learn this. My aunt is very artistic. She's a painter, enjoys theatre and literature, and studied abroad for art history. My ucle is very, very nerdy and technical. He is a 100% logic person and quite a know-it-all, who enjoys reading legal journals, physics books, and is completely "math brained." But together they are very much in love and take good care of each other. Even after all these years they are sensitive to each other's needs, hold hands in public, and work together as partners. Their relationship survives due to their approach and attitude, not their age difference.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 Why should it bother him ?? These days many guy in their 20s would not be bothered even if you were double his age. He probably thinks you are cooler, sexier , more sophisticated ,and more together than girls his age or younger.
What are YOUR motives, though- meaning if you are looking for a serious, future - oriented, leading -somewhere relationship, he may not be the best candidate. But not because he is necessarily a sleazy horndog of a player , just because at his age he he is still not there, not at that place emotionally , mentally, financially.
If you can stay in the moment, take it a day at the time, and have realistic expectations, he can be as good a mate as an older guy .
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reader, honest.lover  +, writes (20 September 2011):
I would say u that love knows no age. I am 24 and i am loving a lady of 40 and she loves me too. Its all about how nicely the two partners share their thoughts and their feelings with each others.
So i will suggest you to go ahead a give it a try and see if your maturity matches with him.
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