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writes: Im 14, and my boyfriend and i want to have sex both were both scared that i will get pregnant so what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): you should be protected and have your mom get birth control pills for you and have your boyfriend were a condom and you wont get pregnant i did that when i was 13 going on 14 and i did not wish to do that again and im 17 now and im pregnant and i regret it
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): Its very commen for every first timers to feel this way. If I were you, and you and your bf are ready to have sex and be sexual from then on. I would get on birth control and USE a condom everytime! I made the mistake of that before, and trust me its not worth it. Be as safe as you can, you guys are young but even if your bf is not a virgin id be safe to get him tested as well. You never know now with all those diseases out there.
Be as safe as you can.
Good luck. xox
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reader, lola manola  +, writes (4 February 2007):
 i know how you feel! i was so nervous my first time that i made my boyfriend fill the condom with water to make sure there were no holes! if your that worried why not go on the contraceptive pill (i dont know if ure allowed to do tht where you live but in the uk they cant refuse it to you no matter what your age) i went on it and used condoms and felt so much safer (my mum scared the life out of me with pregnancy stories when i started having sex which was good in a way i suppose but abit mean)
and please people stop having a go at people who are young and want to have sex, we all mature in different ways (i lost mine when i was 17 but because i didnt feel ready before) are you using getting pregnant as an excuse for not being ready (understandable) if so there are plenty of ways to have fun without sex (trust me its not all its cracked up to be). be safe dont stress dont rush and have fun xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): this is wat i would do....talk to him about it and tell him how u feel...i know how difficult it can be me and boyfriend are having the same problem and i am the same age...so just tell him how u feel...talk it over..dont do nothing u dont want to.... be safe
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): Hey...I'm not going to say don't have sex, but 14 is 2 years not legal. However, some of my younger friends have lost their virginity, so it's your choice. There are many ways to prevent pregnancy. There are pills that you can take regularely, and ones that you can take the morning after intercourse. You should always use a condom, but they sometimes split. Think it through some more, I think you need to know more about it before you do it. Good luck! Cara -x-
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reader, Shelley-jade +, writes (17 January 2007):
 To be honest it sounds like you are not 100% ready. Wait a little bit longer. Remember if someone finds out your boyfriend could get in big trouble as the law states you have to be 16 years old. Even with concent its all concidered rape.
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reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x +, writes (16 January 2007):
 Hiya.
If you are both scared about the sex, it probably means your not entirely ready, but on the other hand, if you do go ahead with it, remember to use a condom or another kind of contreception and make sure you feel happy with the guy your with, and make sure that if any time you feel uncomfortable, tell him, im sure he will understand.
Be very careful and remember, do whatever you both feel is best for the relationship and feelings.
Good luck!!
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): I'm 18 and still a virgin and proud to be one. I'm waiting for the right time to come along and I think it's best that you should.
Being scared is a sign that you probably aren't ready. You should make sure this relationship is for real and he's not someone who will just run.
Another sign that you're not ready is the fact that you are unsure of how to prevent getting pregnant. Condoms, pills and many more.
Wait a while and then you'll be more ready.
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reader, Blue Rat +, writes (15 January 2007):
Apart from any other considerations, have you actually stopped to consider that you are under the age of consent and that it would be ILLEGAL to have sex? Your boyfriend would be committing a criminal act - even with your consent.
Whether you feel ready for sex or not, whether you agree with the age of consent or not, or whatever anyone's stance or advice on the issue, don't lose sight of the fact that the law says you have to be 16.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): ok girl. I am 16 and I lost my verginity 2 days before my 14th birthday. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done. And the worst thing about it is, he did not want anything to do with me a week after we had sex. To answer your question abstence is the right way to go. But to not sound like a parent , if your going to have sex use a condom and get on birth control. You can actually do it secretly so your parents don't know.just be smart when it comes down to it.
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reader, NenaUnique  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 ok..14!!!??? i am 16 and still a virgin..girl if you think loosing your virginity now is right then your wrong..i dont think your ready for sex..besides your young the younger you are the more scared your going to be the more scared you are the more is going to hurt. but come on now 14!!!!?? you shouldnt your probably going to feel guilty after a while..when people start talking bout who is a virgin and who is not in school..and then if they know your not a virgin and your young boys are just gonna make you think they so call "love you" just so they can get some some. if you know what i mean..and you might like the attention but its going to give you a bad rep. and guys will never like you for you they gonna like you for what you do..peace
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (15 January 2007):
Welcome to the world of responsibility. This is the world that adults have to live in, the one where people have to make responsible decisions and be prepared to face the concequences of their actions. This is the reason that sex is part of the adult world. It is natural for people your age to feel like having sex, but you also realize that you are too young to face the responsibility of having a child. It is good that you realize.
So what do you do? Well, the most important thing is educate yourself. Read what people have to say about young people having sex, about preventing pregnancy, about STD's, about condoms, about the importance of love and feeling ready emotionally to have sex. There is a lot of information online, and you can get advise from people too. Talk about everything with your boyfriend, you might find it kind of fun to come up with a plan together of how you want it to be. When you understand what you are dealing with a bit better, and have planned like an adult for the complexities of sex, you will be ready.
Above all, once the boring planning is out the way, and you are ready, when you do have sex, HAVE A GOOD TIME!!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): This means your are not emotionally ready for sex. You are too young. You need to wait until your are mentally mature to handle the consequences of your decision. I should know, I speak from experience.
-J
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reader, bamsidol4  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 well you should talk to your parents about it and maybe get some birth control pills and to be safe still have him wear protection, that way you have double the chance of not getting pregnant, but if it does happen, its the life is mean to be. just make sure he is the right guy, and not one that will run away or avoid you if it does happen.
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