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writes:hi i am really worried that i am pregnant. I have a feeling that i am and i think im starting to look as though i am.i am scared to go to the doctors because I am afraid of being judged and i know it sounds stupid but if i am i want to abort and i dont want to be judged for wanting to do it.I havent took a pregnancy test yet but my boyfriend said that it wont work because im still having periods...is this true?he wants me to go to the doctors and get a blood test to see if i am pregnant.any advice whatsoever will be appreciated
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reader, ashh99  +, writes (25 January 2010):
hi i understand your dilema but i would ask you to think very carefull......... i know a girl that thought about having an abortion and then changed her mind...... i only wish you could talk to her and her lovely daughter, i have no doubt but you would think twice before even considering it... if only you could know how much happiness this child could bring you and those who he/she would make friends with over the next 50, 60, 70, or 80, years or more and how much love that child could bring to someone in this world, (as sometimes is refered to as a valley of tears)
please please sit down and think alone without any exterior pressure.... and just ask god for his guidance
Thanks for taking the time to read this (which is my first time ever to reply to anything on the pc)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): ok we all agree you need to get a pregnecy test.If you don't figure out to use birth contol you could have this problem every 30 days.I thinks it's strange how people think.When a person wants the baby it's a baby.When you don't want the baby then it's a fetus.A blob to be removed like a tumor.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (17 December 2009):
 IF you're pregnant, a doctor is not going to judge you for your decision.
Although it shouldn't matter to you what other people think about your choice, people are going to judge you for it, there's nothing you can do about it. Everyone has a different view on abortion, some don't really care if someone has one, some are completely against it!
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (17 December 2009):
I think you should go get a HPT and if its positive, go see your doctor. I got pregnant last March, and I didn't keep it, and the doctor who told me that I was pregnant was Catholic and what she was really nice about it.
The only person who really judged me was my sister, she really broke my heart.
If you are pregnant and decide to terminate, I would go see a counselor, because its going to be tough for the first month or so after, because you're going to come down from the hormones. I was going to school and working 20 hours a week when I had my abortion, my boss kept on me at work and I finally snapped and emailed HR, my email was pretty much crazy. If you have further questions, please email me and I will answer them. I've been there and its tough, but you will get through it I promise..
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (17 December 2009):
A health professonal should not judge you. The problem is often more down to the person believing they are being judged by others because they are judging themselves.
Do a pregnancy test. (If you're having normal periods you may well be worrying about nothing) The fact that you are having periods should not make a difference to the test result if you do the test properly. What makes you think that you might be pregnant?
Have you been using contraception? If you're on the pill and have continued to take it, you may still be having periods even if you are pregnant. If you missed a pill or had a bad stomach upset the pill may have failed. It may also be time to rethink your contraceptive options.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 December 2009):
 Go to http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ and notice there's a search box on the upper right hand side that will help you find a local clinic. No one will judge you there.
Relax, you're panicking and it's likely you are not pregnant because you are still getting your periods. So remember to breathe. Start planning, that will help you feel like you have some control over the situation.
Good luck!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (17 December 2009):
 Hey, you know what? You are in the USA which is home to Planned Parenthood, one of the most easiest places for a woman like to you go. They'll go over your options with you, and if an abortion is what you think is best, they will not judge you for it. A doctor (ANYWHERE) should not judge you, but if he or she does, then you are just at a bad doctor. Your body, your options, your choice.
But, before you worry about that - first things first - take a pregnancy test. And if by some chance you are not pregnant, go to the doctors anyway and get contraception! An abortion is not birth control, and you should protect yourself from any future mistakes.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 December 2009):
 what planet is that flag you have from of course your gonna be judged but you dont hve a choice if you want to get rid of the parasiste growing inside you but yeah like everyone said try the home testing thing before you freak out and if you look pregnant its to late for an abortion sorry.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 December 2009):
 A home pregnancy test should work even if you are still having periods - but the chances are if you are having periods then you are not be pregnant. It all depends how long ago you had unprotected sex?
I think you should make an appointment to see the doctor anyway - there are a few things you need to sort out while you are there.
1. Get the doctor to do a pregnancy test just to be sure
2. Get an STD test - having unprotected sex means you have a chance you could have caught something so get this checked ASAP
3. Discuss birth control. If you are having regular sex with your boyfriend then you need to be on some form of birth control as well as using condoms, this is to make sure any situations like this dont happen again.
Dont worry about being judged by a doctor or anyone else for that matter, it is your life, your body hence your decision. Doctors will see cases like yours all the time, probably most days a week. So you are nothing new to them - all they will want to do is help you. Doctors are not as scary as they seem - after all they get into that profession so they can help people!
So stop worrying so much about what other people think of you and start worrying about taking care of yourself and looking after your health - if you did that in the first place you would not be in this situation.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (17 December 2009):
 Hun, before you get yourself all worked up, do a home pregnancy test!
If you are pregnant then you need to look at the options available, however if you are not pregant, please visit your healthcare worker or a doctor for advice on contaception.
Although in rare cases, women still have their periods while pregnant, the only surefire way of knowing if you are indeed pregnant is by a pregnancy test.
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