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writes:Could someone please help me with this? All I keep reading is what NOT to do, but rarely do I find suggestions on what TO DO.I've had no shortage of practice but my kisses are still just so so. I had one girlfriend who was a phenomenal kisser. We weren't kissing, I was *being* kissed. She would drained the energy from my legs and I would have a hard time not falling down. She had no idea what a great kisser she was.I'm not getting any feedback or suggestions. It's always: "I like exactly the way you kiss me". Which is fine - I don't prod - but I do want to be better.Any suggestions?
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (22 February 2011):
While there are techniques of the mouth (using the tongue, softly biting her lips, etc.) a LOT of how a woman is feeling while making out has to do with your overall actions.
Can she tell you're into it? Do you just sit stationary, moving only your mouth or do you put a lot more energy into it? There is such a thing as being "too into it." You don't want it to seem like you're trying to eat her face or something...
What are you doing with your hands? Are they touching her body? Are they tangled in her hair or stroking her cheek? Or are they stiff at your sides? I usually get one hand tangled in her hair (also cradling her head to make us feel closer) and another hand on her lower back sides. Move your hands as well, as if giving her a very light massage.
Is your breath okay? Are your lips chapped? Are your lips too wet? Be aware of these things. Keep gum and chapstick on you so you can be prepared for a spontaneous make out session.
Those are all things to certain of while kissing; its not just about tongue and lips. Make sure she knows you're into her through your actions. Make her feel wanted and beautiful while kissing her. I guarantee it'll be much more unforgettable!
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reader, foolishsage +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Jmtmj & Annalisa are both spot on with some very good points and some great tips!
If you go to a art store, you'll find hundreds and hundreds if not thousands of paint brushes and tools for carving, etc. Now I want you to think of the kissing techniques as these art tools - knowing the little nibble, the gentle sucking of the lower or upper lip - what you're doing with your hands as to stroking her hair or her cheek or grasping her tightly - these are all your tools for creating art.
Another "basic" tool to add is imagine that a bird just stuck it's head into your mouth and you are trying to lick at the birds neck without hitting it in the head. (bad image, isn't it?) Well, that may be extremely basic as that's what I read out of a magazine when I was 13 - but it got me a long way at least to the point where I acquired other tools...
Now - the biggest thing is knowing when to use what tool. You don't use a fine tipped paint brush to sculpt clay - right? Well, it can work, but it's not the best tool to create the art that you're going for... Same can be said of your kissing tools.
It depends on the moment, what you're feeling - where you're at in a particular moment when you kiss - when you touch - when you plant one on her. Kissing is really a form of expressiveness and communication and it really is a full body and mind experience - truly an art. Once you've got all the techniques down, it's just a matter of expressing your feeling of the given moment by using the artistic tools that you've got.
Happy sculpting.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 As Annalisa said, its a tough question as everybody is different and likes different styles of kissing.
How do you find out what type of kissing she likes? Well either you ask her, or you try lots of different variations and see which one she responds to. Variate depth & tongue direction, gentleness & firmness of your lips on her, alternate left & right facial positions.
Try lightly nipping her bottom lip, try brushing her hair over her ear, holding/stroking her face/chin. Try sliding your hand to the back side of her neck, even try teasing or lightly grabbing her hair near the scruff of her neck.
There really are a million different things you can try, but the important thing I think to remember is that kissing is not just about the lips, its about all the sensations that you give her whilst you're kissing. If doesn't like something that you do, she'll most likely either tell you or pull away slightly.
Similarily, if she likes something that you do there's a good chance that she'll copy what you've just done on her- on you. She may breath deeper, lightly moan, touch you more with her hands or increase the forcefulness of her kissing. They're all non-verbal signs that she's probably liking what you're doing and its a lot easier (and more fun) to simply pick up on this feedback and calibrate what you're doing than to ask her what she likes. But that's just been my experience.
Good-luck :)
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reader, Captain Ziggy +, writes (22 February 2011):
 I dunno dude. I usually just let them lead, and respond accordingly until I've made out with her enough to know what she likes. I've been told my method works well lol.
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