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writes:My boyfriend has 2 kids from his previous marriage, I don't have children but would like to. He doesn't want any more children, but he says he will consider it if we get married. Do I take him at his word and hope he changes his mind if we marry or accept that he doesn't want any more kids and either continue the relationship in this knowledge or break up with him? Aside from this issue we are good together.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Agree with Honeypie totally, you need to sit down and hammer this out BEFORE you marry and not *hope* he changes his mind with a glimpse of hope that he will 'consider' it; he might just 'consider it and say No Way!!!
You need to know for sure before you commit if kids are something that you want in your future.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Be up front with him, don't just wait til you are married. Either he wants kids with you (at some point) or he doesn't.
This should be an issue you both agree on.
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reader, Captain Ziggy +, writes (22 February 2011):
 You're entitled to have children of your own. I think you should take a stand here and let him know that you're not comfortable not having kids of your own. He must have expected a single girl with no children to want kids of her own at some point. You should make an effort to let him know that you want kids, and you need reassurance from him.
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