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writes:I started talking to this 21 year old guy from washington a year ago online, Im 18 and I just feel like hes the only one for me, whenever I go out here I just wish I was with him, he asked me to go over before, but it just seems so risky? should i go over, keep talking to him, Im confused? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): This happened to me when I was 18 too, a few years ago now. I met a really great guy online and I fell for him. I would put off going out with my friends so that I could talk to him every day and I was completely happy with that. After a while we both wanted to meet up and eventually we did after about a year. I went over to America to meet him (in a public place) and things were great. He came over to England a few times after that too. However, the more time I actually spent in his company, the more I noticed his flaws and he actually started to irritate me which is something I never would have predicted. Everything looks perfect from far away but you won't really know what the guy you're talking to is like until you spend time with him in person. I found that I was idealising my guy quite a bit, but you may have genuinely found your prince charming! If you do have the money to go over there then I say go for it, but (if you can) go with a friend and arrange to meet in a public place, and have your own plans on where you will be staying when you're there. If it doesn't work out then you will have had a bit of an adventure with a friend of yours in Washington anyway! Alternatively get him to do the leg work and come over to you which may make you feel more comfortable at first. I hope this helps a little.
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