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writes:Ok ... here's my deal. I LOVE when my boyfriend goes down on me. I crave it and even daydream about it! The problem is he hardly ever does. He will occasionally but only when he "feels like it" even when I give him oral he hardly ever returns the favor. I mean I bathe everyday and stuff lol so I know that's not the issue! I hate asking him in foreplay because I feel like I'm making him do something he doesnt want to do, but lately I can't even enjoy the sex if there is no oral first. Am I weird? How can I get him to do it more often? Is he being selfish or am I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): I'm ever so pleased that it worked, and that you've worked something out. Right, all I've got to do is sort out my own life now:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI forgot to thank everyone for the advice! I tried bringing it up casually in regular convo- it felt weird and he looked at me like I was crazy - but then he seemed interested and well, so far there has been more oral than before haha! I just hope he keeps it up lol thanks again everyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): easy, make him go down on you first before you do anything for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): i am not joking, i had the same problem with my long term boyfriend recently! i was trying to figure out why- because when he did it was amazing (and he seemed to enjoy it too)...but it just was maybe once out of every 20 times we had sex (or something like that)...
it was getting me down too- so about three weeks ago, i had one or two glasses of wine in me while out with girlfriends- he was out with his mates so i knew he may have been a little tipsy too- and i just sms him saying, cheekily, 'you don't go down on me enough- is there a problem?'.... (clearly the wine)...
as soon as i text him, i was really embarrassed, because it was really a spare of the moment thing- but his reply was great. He simply said, 'problem? are you serious? I love it.'.... since then, he's gone down on me consdierably more.
Great result!...
i really think that it comes back to men being lazy...nothing to with your hygiene or whatever else!...
good luck
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reader, JSBach  +, writes (23 June 2009):
Don't tell him when you're both naked and ready to rock. Sit down and have a serious conversation about it with him at some other time, tell him how important it is to you. It's possible that he doesn't quite appreciate what it means to you, and if he has any serious objections to going down on you, he can explain them. Good communication won't solve all problems, but it's the best thing we've got.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): Don't do oral on him then. You both enjoy oral so both have need to do it for the other partner. You better tell him all this before resentment builds up.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (23 June 2009):
 hell no your not being selfish he is!
he's getting all the oral when it should be give AND take not give OR take.
tell him how it's making you feel ask him why he doesn't go down on you often enough even when you give him oral first.
this could harm the relationship if it's all one sided it's not fair on you to do all the work.
hope this helps chick :)
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Some guys just don't like it but there may also be other reasons. Talk to him about it as it may be something that is easy to sort out eg he might not know how much you like it or when best to do it or he may need your advice because he might not think he does it very well etc
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reader, Goin crazy +, writes (23 June 2009):
Thats a very touchy thing with a lot of guys . I do it to my wife quite often .Adn i sorta have your problem i do her and she only has given me oral maby 3 times .But i know why she dont like to and im ok with that. But in your case you mention that you bathe every day .Can i ask at what time do you bathe and what time do you have sex?? Is it rite before you have sex or what. Do you prespire a lot? lets put it this way there is an old saying "IF YOU GET PAST THE SMELL THEN YOU GOT IT LICKED" I dont mean to offend you in any way.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (23 June 2009):
 If I was you I would stop giving him oral and then he may get the hint! Or just whisper in his ear when you are doing foreplay how much you like it when he goes down on you. Or you could just ask him why he never does it. X
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reader, imcurioustoo +, writes (23 June 2009):
Tell him its really pleasurable for you and your craving it .. But do it when you two are ina sexual encounter.. Dirty talk if you must .. Just let him no .. And ask him to try this lol its awesome have him finger you while going down on you .. You'll get off like that... its insane best of luck lemme know how it turns out
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