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writes:I love my man but i love to cheat with an older greyer greeneyed man. He is well endowed and my guy isnt. Why am i attracted to older men? Im in my 30's He is in his mid forties-fifties .
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): i had the same problem as you. i am 23 my husband is 34 and i was attracted to a man 23 years my senior. although we did nothing more than kiss i realised there was something wrong and addressed it. it was very hard to admit to my husband we had problems(we had only been married 6 months)but once i did and we looked at what was wrong and corrected it-this took 2-3 weeks to do-we suddenly realised we were meant to be and funnily enough i haven't found this other guy the slightest bit attractive since. i think you just need to talk to your fella and re-discover what you liked about him in the first place. good luck and i hope you find what you are looking for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Interesting point of view. You've just been advised to use the experience with the "greeneyed" to improve your sexual relation with the husband. Some would say that is not cheating, as you use it for benefit of the primary relation. I personally disagree. Bear in mind that such escapades, if frequent, can make you in time lose notion of how to be devoted to a family. Good luck...
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reader, xve298 +, writes (27 August 2007):
Look, stop the drama and hook up with this guy see if it is what you have been missing. Learn about yourself. and about sex. If this new man is sexually better then think of what it is that makes him so? Then work both men one to see if BF can be praised enough to rise to the occasion and for yourself to enjoy the sex you crave. Remember, males have a fragile ego. So go and get books on Tantric sex as well as open relationships. Then make up your own mind without people telling you how it is supposed to be
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reader, Reina +, writes (26 August 2007):
How old are you really? This sounds like a question a 15 year old would write. No one can truly answer exactly why you're attracted to "older, grayer, green eyed men."
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reader, Geminibabe2013 +, writes (26 August 2007):
Maybe the reason YOu are attrated to older men is becuz you are more mature then the man you are currently seeing. But cheating is not the way to go. if ur not happy with guy you are with and are seekin someone older than you ,end things with your current guy. remember U have to happy with the way things come out in the end.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Hi curiousblue,
Your description says your 51-59 yet you say your in your 30's. Judging by your comments Im wondering if your not considerably younger than even that. What ever your real age may be your behavior is definately juvanile. Cheating is cheating, theres no rationalization that makes it ok. Love means loyalty and if your not loyal then your not really in love. And lastly: If the age or size of a guys package is what you are basing your choices on maybe you should seek a good psychologist. It sounds like you have some serious Daddy issues. Hopefully you can sort them out before you tear through the lives of any more men. Best of luck with that.
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reader, 88jane  +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Are you experiencing any other difficulties in your relationship with your guy? they way i see it is, if you are in love with him then you wouldnt cheat on him with anyone. It sounds like you are not being fulfilled in your relationship and this may be a sign that you are not meant to be together! you need to sit down and have a good think about what you want! Its not fair to your man to cheat on him...you wouldnt like it if somebody cheated on you! you sound like you want to go and have some fun-thats fine, but you need to let your guy know that you are feeling like this because it isnt fair to mislead him!good luck with everything hunni!xxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 August 2007):
 I don't think it should be a case of why do i love older men, you say you love your partner so why would you want to be with anyone else older, younger more endowed or not.
Are you having problems in your relationship? as i noticed your other question about anal sex.
I think you need to work out what you want from the relationship you are in at the moment before you make any decisions about anything else.
Take care.x.
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (26 August 2007):
 If you're engaged or married or in an "exclusive relationship" why are you cheating. You're only cheating yourself. If you want something different, tell your man that you want to play around. You're getting something emotional from this other guy that you're not getting from your man. If your man isn't pleasing you, tell him what you need to be pleased. If it means another man then let him decide if he wants to be part of it. Well endowed is a cop out. Maybe your man would like to try a smaller prettier woman with a tighter pussy or have a woman that can sit on top of him or have a woman that can cum 15 times an hour or squirt even. Be real to yourself and real to him. In his mid forties, why waste his time and yours. I'm sure he can find someone better.
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