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writes: Hello, A few weeks ago I met a boy who I instantly got along with. He told me he was 18 and so I lied about my age and said i was 17, a year older as I'm actually 16. At the time I didn't think I would see him again, so i didn't think It would cause any problems to lie about 1 year, but lately he has been inviting me out alot and I've really started to get to know him. I didn't think things would get this serious and now I don't know how I can ever tell him. I am actually 17 in a few months time, when he thinks I turn 18 and I don't know what to do. I really want to get things out in the open now but I don't know how to tell him. Please give me some good advice on what I can do!Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello, well everyones advice really helped, I sat him down and told the truth and it worked he didn't see it as a big deal at all and rest assured I won't be telling lies again.
Thanks again to all whos helped :)
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Right I think that most young girls have done this. Blimey I used to do it all the time and I always got found out in the end. I think you should be honest with him a year is not that much difference and its not like your a lot younger than him. Of course he will dissapointed you lied but just explain you did it because you wanted him to like you and you thought that if he knew you were sixteen he would never of looked twice. Assure him that you have not lied about anything else and things should be okay. Do it now though before you get in too deep because the longer you leave it the harder it wll be for him to forgive you. Good luck
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Just tell him straight out... Its not a major difference one year... So if you only did lie slightly about your age then tell him now when it will be less of a big deal, rather than later on if things really do take off... Just tell him you know it was a little daft but didnt think he would take you seriously if you said you were 16, and that you didnt think that you would like him like you do and feel that you have to come clean so that you guys can start of on an even setting... Im sure he can overlook this if you tell him sooner rather than later... Im sure it will be fine, if he likes you as much as you like him then i really doubt there will be a problem.
Good luck
Take care x x
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reader, zosey +, writes (22 August 2006):
 hey, well u could say to him that u dint think we were gunna see him agen and u wanted to sound abit older as he is older then u it shouldnt be a problem, tell him the truth lyin is never a gd idea but hey every1 does it, hell be fine ull probably find urslef laughin about it wen ur older. take care. hope this helped. zoe x
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reader, camille +, writes (22 August 2006):
 The only advice is to tell him. Tell the absolute truth of why you said what you said and there shouldn't be a problem. If there is, at least you know now and not further down the line when it would be harder.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (22 August 2006):
 You should come clean with him as soon as possible.
Lies so early in a relationship are never a good sign, otherwise, you will find yourself lying to cover up old lies. Then you will have a situation. Clear this up while its easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2006): sweetheart I was in exactly the same situation as this guy when i was going out with my girlfriend. I met her in a club and she said she was 17 (I was 18) and on the first date she said she was 16.
OK I'll admit I was shocked but that was because I originally thought when I first saw hershe was 19!
The point is I didn't find it a problem as it was only a 2 year difference. But like Dr. Pete said if you lied and you were actually 15 then that would be something that would cause him to break up with you.
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reader, Tine +, writes (22 August 2006):
 i done the same thing with an ex and being truthful you cant keep onto this secret for very long. Because it will always comeup and the further you let it drag on the more lies you will have to tell and someday it will all get on top of you and it will eat you up. Be straight with him now and tell him that you made a mistake and that you only said it because you thought that he wouldnt wanna know you if you told him your age. If he likes you for who you are then it shouldnt be a problem what age you are, he likes who for you not for what age you are and being serious a year isnt really that big of a problem. So tell him now before you let things drag on
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reader, sugersweet02 +, writes (22 August 2006):
 ok ill give you choices
1: tell him but add "i thought you wouldnt like me and i love you and i just wanted to be with you and all that lovey dovey stuff
2: dont tell him and on your birthday youll get a cake that says happy birthday..... congratualations on being 17!!! and hell get more of a shock and might brake up with you if he dont understand
so i would tell him now: he might be upset but there is more of a chance hell stay with you now than he will on your birthday good luck xox and do the right thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2006): Best thing to do is tell him in person, if you think you can handle it. Just get straight to the point, tell him your age and then explain why you lied (because you thought he wouldn't want to go out with a 16yr old? because you thought you'd never see him again?)
You have found yourself in a very common situation, and I don't think it's that bad. If you were 15, perhaps. And it's not like you lied about any thing -that- important. You just made a mistake, that's all.
You do need to tell him sooner, rather than later, though.
If you don't have the guts to tell him in real life, tell him over email or a text. But, to be honest, it would mean far more, and seem more genuine, if you told him in person.
Don't be afraid - go for it - I think your boyfriend will be fine.
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